(Closed) How to deal with suffocating family…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

My DH’s extended family is much closer than my own too. It’s something that you have to discuss with your Fiance and decide what makes you both happy. What would you feel comfortable with? If it were me, I would probably want to do a big family event once or twice a month. I would talk to your Fiance about how you feel and make an agreement. Make sure this is a private discussion that is about you, not about his family. 

Post # 4
Member
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My boyfriend is also super close with his very large family. They have a big family (think about 15 people at least!! ) dinner every two weeks at different places of family members. It is so, so, so everwhelming for me as I come from a small family. Sure, I am close with my family but I don’t see them that often (due to distance). I can totally relate to you! On top of the two-weekly gatherings we will see some members of his family once a week or more. That I don’t mind as much if it’s a one on one (or two on two) scenario, I just dread the HUGE gatherings which can be so loud and tiring. SO knows how I feel about this and let’s me decide if I want to come along. I end up going once a month, which seems like a fair deal. Have you thought about a similar solution? You could go to one family gathering a month, choosing the “most important” ocasion. Someone once told me that she is married to her husband not his family but I find that saying a bit too harsh. Family is very important after all…

Post # 5
Member
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FI’s family is like this. I LOVE them, but sometimes its a little too much. FI’s sister (married w/ 2 kids) lives 5 minutes from her parents’ house and literally everyday they are all always together. Every Sat & Sunday and almost every weeknight for dinner! This would drive me absolutely crazy!! Luckily Fiance and I live states away from his parents, lol. He even says that he has no desire to spend every.single.day and every.single.dinner with his entire family. Its just way too clingy, for me.

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