Post # 1
I dated this one guy for 2.5yrs. We broke up because he was talking to other girls, getting pics sent to his phone etc. Actually, I was willing to work it out but he said I ruined all trust (hah, yeah). Now, I wasn’t perfect in this relationship either and we both have reasons to not like each other.
We are both in the same nursing program so we see each other ALOT. We don’t speak at all BUT he posts stuff on twitter about me all the time. He made fun of me when I got pink eye, he’s made fun of my clinical group, and now he’s posting about where I live and how it feels so just so amazing to him (I live in a trailer). We’ve been broken up for a long time and I don’t know what to do about this! It really upsets me because I know that other people from nursing school are listening to things I say and telling him. The reason I know this is because of where I live. There are only a few people in nursing school that knows because I just don’t tell a ton of people. I’m not ashamed of it, but he’s turning it into a joke. He’s also had his girlfriend (now ex) send me messages on fb to tell me how classless I am. I’ve blocked both him and his ex girlfriend on fb but I can’t do anything about the content he posts.
My friend thinks I should stop by his house and ask to talk to him face to face and basically just tell him that I know he’s posted stuff about me and to please stop and let’s both move on with our lives but I’m not sure if that’s the best move.
I honestly thought about calling his parents (he still lives with them) but I know that’s so childish.
Any advice? I feel like he’s posting stuff about me on the internet and I can’t do anything about it and I just have to deal with it. It feels like crap.
Post # 3
Go to the head of your program, show him or her the tweets, texts, and explain what has been going on and how distracting and upsetting it is. Don’t talk about him with other people if that’s fueling the fire. You don’t to school to be harassed. If he’s mature enough to be pursing higher education he should be mature enough to not harass and obsess over an ex girlfriend.
Post # 4
i have been through the same thing, i was in class with my ex and when we started the class we were on the rocks and by the end of the class we were clearly broken up & we had to sit next to each other. he was always saying things about me on fbook. and my fi ex girlfriend was always posting stuff about me and us. my best advice is no not come in contact with him and just not give him or any of his gfs the time of day. they want a responce. i have had post on fbook about me, messages to me, messages sent to my friends and text after text trashing me and the relationship i have with fi. as hard as it is you have to stay strong. trust me it gets hard but they want you to fight back with him. not worth it. i never said anything back to either of them and they went away after awhile. good luck !
Post # 5
If he is posting about you on fb, with new bullying laws, you can report him to fb and have his profile deleted. Not sure if twitter works the same, but it’s worth looking into. I’d tell him to stop first… He needs to know what he is doing is harassment. Call it harassment when u talk to him. And that if it doesn’t stop, u will move forward with charges. If he continues, shut his lame ass down.
Post # 6
Well, if people you both know are telling him thingd you say and do, then he must already know that you know about what he is doing. The fact that he has so much time on his hands to worry about you when you’ve moved on is disgusting but I don’t think you shoud give him the pleasure of seeing you hurt. Confontinh him while emoyional could fuel his jerky motives. DO NOT go to his parents. He is an adult and to do so would give him more ammo. As others mentioned, I would opt for the legal route. Go to the dean of the school or Facebook about the harassment. Even better if you could have a lawyer call him . This way you show that you will not even lower yourself to speak to him but also that you aren’t going to play his childish game.
Post # 7
@paigers91: I am sorry you’re dealing with his ignorance and stupidity. I like the PP’s ideas. I also think you should consider contacting an attorney or the police because it sounds as if his behavior fits with the definition of defamation of character. Best wishes to you!
Any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person’s reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.
Post # 8
I agree that this is something your school should be dealing with. It’s a student bullying another student.
Post # 9
I would let him know that you want him to stop harrasing you. Let him know that if he continues then you will go to the director of nursing at your school. Let him know in WRITING through Facebook. If he continues, go to your director of nursing. Period. Print out the message you sent him, and anything else you have that he has sent you.
If he has any sense, he will stop. Nursing school is difficult to get into, and I can’t imagine he would want to risk losing this oppurtunity. That being said, you don’t need the added BS and stress he is causing you.
Post # 10
I’m with PP’s. At this point I would go directly to the program director or the police.
What a nut…
Post # 11
I wouldnt bother discussing this with him, I would go straight to your program director or the police as what he is going is now against the law. Dont put up with it!
Post # 12
His step father and I had a good relationship, even after the break up so I did end up calling him about it. That may not have been the best idea, but for the situation, I think it’s okay. After posting my post earlier, I also found out he’s been telling people I was pregnant. I told his step dad primarily because in our nursing program, its in our bylaws that they can ask a pregnant woman to not attend until her baby is due (they can’t kick you out, but they can make you repeat a class…even if you passed) and his step dad agreed that it shouldn’t be happening. I basically told him that I didn’t want to have to go through the hassle of having to go take a test for pregnancy at school because my ex wanted to run his mouth.
I did check his twitter again after talking to his step dad and he posted “Innocent tweet #1” so he was just doing that to try and set me off. It’s so ridiculous and childish, but I’m hoping the talk with his stepdad will cause him to stop dragging my name through the mud so to speak.
If he continues next semester harrassing me or talking about me or glaring at me in class (he does this sometimes also) I’m definitely going to the dean.
I will say that we have a mutual teacher and when he made fun of my clinical group, one of the girls went to our teacher and the teacher told her that she saw an evil side in him. (this is irrelevant, I just thought it was hilarious/awesome when I heard that b/c I think there is too) and at least there is a teacher that could vouch for him talking negatively about people in the program.
Post # 13
Get screenshots of everything now. If he starts up again, and you go to the Dean, how much do you want to bet he takes down the posts and calls you a liar? Get the evidence now.
Post # 14
@KitKatNYC: I just went through and did that. It took FOREVER! But it’s done.