(Closed) How to deal with this ex?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Go to the head of your program, show him or her the tweets, texts, and explain what has been going on and how distracting and upsetting it is. Don’t talk about him with other people if that’s fueling the fire. You don’t to school to be harassed. If he’s mature enough to be pursing higher education he should be mature enough to not harass and obsess over an ex girlfriend.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i have been through the same thing, i was in class with my ex and when we started the class we were on the rocks and by the end of the class we were clearly broken up & we had to sit next to each other. he was always saying things about me on fbook. and my fi ex girlfriend was always posting stuff about me and us. my best advice is no not come in contact with him and just not give him or any of his gfs the time of day. they want a responce. i have had post on fbook about me, messages to me, messages sent to my friends and text after text trashing me and the relationship i have with fi. as hard as it is you have to stay strong. trust me it gets hard but they want you to fight back with him. not worth it. i never said anything back to either of them and they went away after awhile. good luck !

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If he is posting about you on fb, with new bullying laws, you can report him to fb and have his profile deleted. Not sure if twitter works the same, but it’s worth looking into. I’d tell him to stop first… He needs to know what he is doing is harassment. Call it harassment when u talk to him. And that if it doesn’t stop, u will move forward with charges. If he continues, shut his lame ass down.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well, if people you both know are telling him thingd you say and do, then he must already know that you know about what he is doing.  The fact that he has so much time on his hands to worry about you when you’ve moved on is disgusting but I don’t think you shoud give him the pleasure of seeing you hurt.  Confontinh him while emoyional could fuel his jerky motives. DO NOT go to his parents.  He is an adult and to do so would give him more ammo.  As others mentioned, I would opt for the legal route.  Go to the dean of the school or Facebook about the harassment.  Even better if you could have a lawyer call him Laughing. This way you show that you will not even lower yourself to speak to him but also that you aren’t going to play his childish game.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@paigers91:  I am sorry you’re dealing with his ignorance and stupidity.  I like the PP’s ideas.  I also think you should consider contacting an attorney or the police because it sounds as if his behavior fits with the definition of defamation of character.  Best wishes to you! 

Any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person’s reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.

Post # 8
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1075 posts
Bumble bee

I agree that this is something your school should be dealing with. It’s a student bullying another student.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would let him know that you want him to stop harrasing you. Let him know that if he continues then you will go to the director of nursing at your school. Let him know in WRITING through Facebook. If he continues, go to your director of nursing. Period. Print out the message you sent him, and anything else you have that he has sent you.

If he has any sense, he will stop. Nursing school is difficult to get into, and I can’t imagine he would want to risk losing this oppurtunity. That being said, you don’t need the added BS and stress he is causing you.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m with PP’s. At this point I would go directly to the program director or the police. 

What a nut…

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I wouldnt bother discussing this with him, I would go straight to your program director or the police as what he is going is now against the law. Dont put up with it!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Get screenshots of everything now. If he starts up again, and you go to the Dean, how much do you want to bet he takes down the posts and calls you a liar? Get the evidence now.

 

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