(Closed) How to deal with “Too small” comments?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Your ring is GORGEOUS. Don’t let anyone put you down.

I got a few ‘oh that’s so cute’ or ‘you can always upgrade’ comments. Whenever I get anything even remotely judgey about my e-ring I always come back with some variation of “He got me the exact ring I wanted, and I would never even think about replacing it, because that’s the ring he gave me when he asked me to be his wife, and that means more to me than anything in the world.”

People put too much value in size. Size has nothing to do with the emotional sentiment attached to the ring he gave you to be his wife, wether you picked it out, he surprised, or anything in between. If my husband had given me a gold band I would’ve been just as happy because he gave me what I really wanted, he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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MrsSzan :  your ring is beautiful. I love how low the setting is. Honestly I don’ know what I’d say to that comment, except maybe “what the fuck is wrong with you?” Lol

 

Post # 33
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1936 posts
Buzzing bee

Honestly I think your ‘small’ stones are 10x prettier than half the bees on here with big honking diamonds (or non-diamonds). I like smaller stones with personality. This is the first place I heard about ‘finger coverage’ (whutt), and where girls know all the specs of their ring. Also the first place I have ever seen anyone put so much importance on their ring’s specs, or wanting to custom design their own ring. 

Usually ignoring the rude comments works best, but if you feel the need to say something, a simple “I love it, it’s exactly what I wanted and most importantly it represents our love” is really hard to argue with. 

 

Post # 34
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

I love your ring OP. The color of your sapphire is gorgeous and made me gasp when I first saw a picture of it.

I am crazy about sapphires and yours packs a lot of punch with that bright blue color.

 

I have a ruby ring that is probably around the same size as your sapphire. It was my mom’s engagement ring.

It isn’t a big honking ruby, by no means,  but the bright, glowy, red color makes up for what it lacks in size. I wear it on my right hand and have had someone laugh and tell me once that it’s tiny. But I had a gemologist tell me it’s worth at least $4000.

 

 I would rather have a high quality stone, with close to top color, than a huge, poor quality, dull looking one.

 

And your sapphire looks like the color that many people seek when looking for a  high quality blue sapphire.

People are always going to have something negative to say though, especially when they don’t appreciate colored gemstones and their uniqueness.

Here is a pic of my ruby ring.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 1999

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MrsSzan :  I love it, it’s perfect! I really like the bezels and wider band.

Post # 36
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7978 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

why would you choose that?
BECAUSE I LOVE IT

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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MrsSzan :  I kept thinking about this and…a zillion days later here’s my comeback:

“your other ring was much larger, why would you choose that?”

“Oh Mother-In-Law, I’m just so spoiled in the size area!” Laugh and walk away. 

 

She asked for it.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Hawaii

I agree with many here. Try not to give it anymore attention. If YOU love your ring that is truly all that matters. If you would have picked anything different you would still wish for this ring. It’s lovely by the way!! 🙂

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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MrsSzan :  Your ring is absolutely stunning! But I’m also biased because I LOVE sapphires and chose that for my ring as well. Don’t feel the need to explain why you love your ring to rude people. It needs no explanation because it’s very beautiful and unique. Unhappy and shallow people never miss an opportunity to bring others down. Don’t give them the satisfaction. xoxo

Here’s a pic of of my blue beauty from our wedding day. (sorry it’s so large…I have no idea how to reduce the size)

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Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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MrsSzan :  I personally love your ring!! I have a massive soft spot for sapphires specifically three stone rings with diamonds either side. Yours is unique and beautiful and suits your hand perfectly. 

Here’s mine 😊

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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MrsSzan :  Screw them! Your ring is beautiful! I got that too, and someone even said, oh, don’t worry, you can upgrade in a few years! I just smiled and said I love my ring just the way it is. And that is because my DH picked it for me. 

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Post # 42
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Newbee

People are insane! My ring has a half carat center stone and it suits my small hands and size 4 finger perfectly. One of my “friends” actually told my fiance “It’s really pretty! Small, but pretty!” to him when we were all out celebrating. What the hell? Like…*I* chose this ring, biatch, not him. Don’t try to shame him, that’s so rude! He didn’t tell me about it until after–I would have called her out in front of everyone if I had heard.

My aunt also literally said “neat” as a blunt response to my ring.

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