(Closed) How to Deal with "Why aren't you living together??"

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just say as little as possible. “It’s best for our situation that we wait to move in together until after we get married.” There are all sorts of reasons why couples wait to live together. I can’t people people are being this rude to you. Do they really think you’re going to be like, “Gosh, now that you told me we should live together, we definitely will! Thanks!”

Post # 4
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s a religious reason, so why not just be confident in your beliefs and say that?

Post # 5
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Ms_Purple:  Do you live with your parents?  If you do, then you could say you’re living with them to save money for the wedding and a downpayment for a house.

Or you could say that you’re locked into your leases and it would do too much damage to your credit to break them so you’re stuck until after the wedding.

Post # 6
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Why lie? Say “we’re christians and we’d rather wait until we’re married”

Post # 7
10572 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ditto with PPs.  Put a positive spin on it depending on the person.  We look forward to living with each other and experiencing that change as a married couple.

Post # 8
4574 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Ms_Purple:  I agree with @bebero:  just tell me how it is and in very polite way, that’s all

Post # 9
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The absolute best response to any rude or intrusive question is a curious “why do you ask?” with a confused smile on your face.  Gets them every time.

Post # 10
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i think it’s so rude that people are asking you that. it’s none of their business but since they asked, just tell them the truth (like PP’s said). my Darling Husband and i lived together before marriage but i understand that it’s not for everyone. i think it’s a personal decision that is different for every couple so people shouldn’t judge.

Post # 11
1 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Why can’t you tell people that you just don’t believe in living together before marriage?  My Fiance and I are both catholic and do not believe in living together before marriage.  We bought a house once we were engaged and he lives there without me.  I will be moving in after our wedding!  When people ask why we don’t live together we just tell them the reason.

Post # 12
8694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Ms_Purple:  just say you are waiting until marriage.

no further explaination needed.

walk away if someone keeps pestering you about it.  what you do is none of their business.

Post # 14
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ms_Purple: I would just say, personal reasons or say it’s really none of your business!

Post # 16
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I usually say, we’re Christian and come from traditional families, it’s important to us and it’s important to many people that love us that we wait. So we are. If people start with the “what ifs” (he’s messy, snores, etc) then just say, “I’m sure we can figure that out,” and change the subject.

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