Post # 1
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69 posts
Worker bee
ok, my Mother-In-Law only calls when she needs something such as borrowing money or using my husband’s car. She doesnt call us or communicate unless she needs someting. Her car recently got repo and I have a feeling she is going to be calling more often now. Always, my husbands responds to her commands and gives her what she wants.. today he let her borrow his car and returned it on empty and the gas light was on. Is this normal? I get upset because I feel my husband is just being used by her, it would be different and I would be more understanding if she kept in touc or it’d be nice to get a call to see how things are rather than wanting something. I got upset today and confronted my husband about the issue and explained my feelings about the situation and I feel bad for him. I am not use to this kind of realtionship with my mom. She calls on a daily basis witout wanting anyting. Am I over reacting and should just let this go? This has been an on going pattern for about te last 6-10 months even before the wedding. Should he give in all ? or should he stand up for himself and stopped being walked all over…………..thoughts pleaseeee…….
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
not normal not healthy ur man needs to stand up for himself.. and leaving the gas empty on the return is not acceptable no matter the relationship and should be dealt with asap
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
And he’s your husband? Cut the apron strings boy!
Post # 6
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69 posts
Worker bee
yes, its so frustrating!!!!!! I’m getting to the point of not answering the phone when she calls. pathetic
Post # 7
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3312 posts
Sugar bee
Your husband has to be the one to say something but please remember…. This is his mother. She gave him life and took care of him until he was able to be on his own. Tread lightly!
Post # 8
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69 posts
Worker bee
@armychica06: yes I realize that, and I wouldn’t have one issue with it if she actually communicated with us rather just when she “needs” something. Its just hurtful to watch him get used and taken advantage of. thats all.
Post # 9
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69 posts
Worker bee
she’s back at it again this week… ughh I’m really starting to feel hurt here. I’ve been behind a few bills over the summer (I”m a school teacher) and I was off all summer …my husband NEVER gave me money for my bills…also, he wouldnt put me on his health insurance until I had the money to pay him for it… is this normal???….. but his mother called again tonigt for money and he left the house to give her money!?!?!?!??!?! please tell me I’m not selfish.. ughh i just dont know anymore..he also let her have his car alllll day yesterday….. I’m really considering separating for a bit…feeling a bit sad lately