(Closed) How to decide on non traditional wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
2422 posts
Buzzing bee

We opted for a Darling Husband wedding for a few reasons.

One was cost. While the wedding was more than we expected to pay, 1/3 of the budge was our trip/honeymoon (10 days) and another 1/3 was our parents’ trips (we wanted to pay for those). 

Two, we’re both kind of shy people. I never wanted a ton of people at my wedding because I didn’t want 200 people staring at me. I thought a more intimate setting would work better. 

Three, we couldn’t really have a “local” wedding. We live in Missouri, which is where most of DH’s family lives. However I’m from Connecticut, where ALL my family is. Either way one side of the family would of had to travel if we had a wedding in the States. 

We had 13 people at our wedding and it was VERY low-key. We each only had one attendant. For our reception, we just went to a restaurant after so we didn’t have speeches, head table, etc. 

One thing to note on your friends. My advise is if you do have a Destination Wedding, I’d make sure they will definitely come before you ask them to be in the wedding. A Destination Wedding is a big commitment for a guest. 

Post # 4
398 posts
Helper bee

We are getting married in his hometown, Wisconsin. 

His family is a lot bigger but we still wanted a small wedding under 40 guests.  We are not doing a bridal party, only my son and his dog will stand with us.

We aren’t doing a full reception party, instead we are having a reception dinner at an upscale cafe. We are going to have a private room with a buffet style dinner. This way people will still be able to get up and mingle.

We found a great park pavillion that was super inexpensive to rent for the day.  Plus it’s right on the lake.  It provides rain coverage and even a fireplace.

Since we will be in his hometown, his mom is throwing a day after reception for extended family


Post # 5
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I wish we eloped or had a Destination Wedding. Socializing exhausts me and the planning stresses me out. I haven’t gotten marrieed yet so I can’t chime in on whether or not everything is worth it but it seems like it is for a lot of Bees. Only you can decide if it is worth it to have your extended family and friends with you on the day of your wedding. My best friend just eloped in Hawaii and she lights up everytime she talks about it. She is having a cheap at home reception next week- a keg of beer, some bbq and an ipod playlist. This may also be an option for you if you want to have it both ways.

As far as the bridal party is concerned- there are a lot of horror stories out there of friends not living up to expectations or whatever. I do not have a bridal party but my friends do still help out with ideas and projects, I just don’t expect it of them. I am slightly freaking out about the fact that no one will be walking down the aisle before me but they love that they didn’t have to spend money on an outfit they will never wear again πŸ™‚

I am sorry if I sound so anti-wedding. I am 2 months away and feeling the stress. I am excited to spend the rest of my life with Fiance. Only you can decide what you want your wedding to be but make sure it truly reflects you. I am settling for much more of a traditional wedding to appease my Fiance and his fmaily and it has been nothing but a headache for the past year. I am sure I will have an amazing time on the actual day and I hope that makes everything worthwhile.

To answer your questions about what makes our wedding unique or less cookie cutter… we are having our ceremony at a greenhouse at 9am with a female officiant. Afterwards we are hanging out at the zoo for awesome pictures. Our reception is in our backyard and we will be serving Famous Daves and cupcakes (that is the part I am most excited for!). We will have lawn games, board games and card games (maybe video games too) in addition to the traditional dancing and mingling. Afterwards, since it ends at 5pm, we will probably go to a local bowling alley.  

You don’t have to play by any wedding rules and can make your wedding whatever you want it to be. So how would you like to celebrate? Alone with Fiance, only with immediate family and close friends? With everyone you have ever met? At your favorite restaraunt, in your backyard, in an exotic location, or at a banquet hall? Do you like DIY projects? Do you want a formal event or casual? Offbeatbride.com is a good resource for non-traditional wedding planning.

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