How to decide where to settle down?

posted 7 months ago in Home
Post # 2
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

CloverBells :  I’m a Boston girl so I’m biased to loving it here, but is it just living in the city that you hate? Because you could live out in the suburbs and your husband would still have the career opportunities in the city if he wanted. Somewhere on the north shore would put you close enough to work in town and also not too far from your family in Maine (depending on where exactly they are). We live just outside the city so that we have that cosy community feeling, but still make Boston salaries. 

Post # 4
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Another (recent) Boston bee here. Similar to LilliV we settled outside the city but super near a commuter rail station so the commute downtown actually isn’t horrible. We get the benefits of community feel but Boston salaries. Added bonus is that my family are an easy drive away so will be very useful when we have young kids in the (hopefully) near future.

Houses are expensive here, I sympathize there. Even out where we are they are better but still pricey. Plus we pay $$$ in daily commuter fares. 

Our plan is to save aggressively with our higher salaries for 5-10 years and then try to find a smaller city to settle in (e.g. Burlington, VT or Portland, ME or similar). The hope being that aggressive savings will set us up to be able to take paycuts. But we’ll see where our careers take us. 

It’s a tough decision. If you and SO are still finishing masters, I’d probably spend the first few years after that still in an urban setting to set your careers up before moving to an area with really limited opportunities. 

Also – there’s no reason a house has to come before kids! Lots of people have their youngest children in rented apartments and then buy later.

Post # 6
238 posts
Helper bee

Have you thought about moving to Portland, ME? Not sure where your family is from, it sounds like they may be in Bangor or further north but at least from Portland it’s an easier drive North to visit them. My Darling Husband has been pleasantly surprised at the job opportunites in Portland, he moved back a year and half ago after working out of Chicago for 4 years. I’ve been in my current position for 7 years and am finding lots of room for growth. 

Housing is still expensive in the Portland area but still much cheaper than Boston. 

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