Post # 1
Soon to be engaged & want to be prepared on how to handle this. We have very little funds & it’ll be very small wedding or elopement. His parents are fairly well-off & will very likely offer some money — but I have seen waaay too many instances of the parents controlling everything/causing stress when they’re paying. Future Mother-In-Law can be controlling. If they were allowed to do a small amount say the flowers or dj only, do they have to dictate things, guest list etc? Thanks for input /experience.
Post # 2
From what you describe, even if they only gave you one dollar, they would feel entitled to steamroll you. Heck, even if you don’t accept the money, they’ll probably still try. I would have your Fiance make it clear right now that you are doing this wedding yourselves, and then stop talking about anything wedding related. Is your Fiance on the same page as you regarding this?
Post # 3
Have the wedding you can afford. Any amount of money you take usually means that whoever is paying (because you can’t) gets a say.
There are several ways of politely declining money being offered.
Post # 4
“That’s so sweet of you to offer, but we’ve decided this is something we want to do ourselves”
And stand firm on this- together.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I would avoid a potential headache and politely decline any financial assistance toward your wedding. Plan what you can afford so you have control over all decisions.
Post # 6
jonasbutterfly : If they’d like to pay for the flowers as your present then feel free to graciously accept. Do not take cheques from them though. Be sure of what you want so you can clearly and firmly say no thank you.
Good luck planning!
Post # 7
jonasbutterfly : LMAO! Uh, no. they don’t get to invite. Also, don’t count on their money until its actually in your hand. definitely keep it specific to a vendor/item.