How to decline or limit wedding $ from his parents?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1683 posts
Bumble bee

From what you describe, even if they only gave you one dollar, they would feel entitled to steamroll you. Heck, even if you don’t accept the money, they’ll probably still try. I would have your Fiance make it clear right now that you are doing this wedding yourselves, and then stop talking about anything wedding related. Is your Fiance on the same page as you regarding this?

Post # 3
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Have the wedding you can afford.  Any amount of money you take usually means that whoever is paying (because you can’t) gets a say. 

There are several ways of politely declining money being offered. 

Post # 4
5893 posts
Bee Keeper

“That’s so sweet of you to offer, but we’ve decided this is something we want to do ourselves”


And stand firm on this- together. 

Post # 5
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I would avoid a potential headache and politely decline any financial assistance toward your wedding. Plan what you can afford so you have control over all decisions.

Post # 6
2579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

jonasbutterfly :  If they’d like to pay for the flowers as your present then feel free to graciously accept. Do not take cheques from them though. Be sure of what you want so you can clearly and firmly say no thank you.

Good luck planning!

Post # 7
571 posts
Busy bee

jonasbutterfly :  LMAO! Uh, no. they don’t get to invite.  Also, don’t count on their money until its actually in your hand. definitely keep it specific to a vendor/item.


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