- 5 years ago
I have a family member of mine has offered to throw “something” (yes, her words) for me and another engaged 3rd? cousin. I do not speak to this family member or the engaged cousin regularly, or at all really, with the exception of funerals and biannual family reunions. This would be held where she lives (2 hours away) and I don’t particularly even like this person. She causes drama amongst my other family members by offering her opinion on things that are none of her business, hence why neither I, nor my immediate family speak to her on any other occasion than those at which we must. I find her offer bizarre, quite frankly. She will not be invited to the wedding, so besides me not liking her, that is another reason why I couldn’t possibly allow her to throw me “something.”
I need to know how I can politely decline her offer without committing to anything else. Many other posts I have read about declining a shower entail offering to visit the person, and, in my case, that would be just weird. I’m not even sure if she knows where I live or what a do for a living, so offering to go to lunch would be simply painful.