(Closed) How to delegate tasks amongst BMs and MOHs??

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Good question!! I’m not sure how much I want to give out (part because I don’t want to give them too much & part because I want it done how it is in my head), but at this point, I don’t have much to do. I don’t have supplies for any big projects, and the things that I do have, are small projects where it’s ok with just me doing it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You don’t delegate. Simple as that 🙂

I don’t mean to sound harsh, so I do apologize if it comes acorss that way, but it’s not a given that wedding party membershave to help with anything beyond getting their attire and making their own travel arrangements.

If they ask to help, that’s another story. But the wedding planning is the bride and groom’s responsibility. We did everything ourselves, including the folding of every last program.

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am not delegating anything to my wedding party – if they offer to help with certain task I will for sure let them but I am not actually delegating anything!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I had the ladies in my party offer to do pretty much anything and everything; however, I am only working part-time hours right now so I have a lot of time to do stuff.  My sister (MOH) insisted on doing my bridal shower/bachelorette party, so I’ve helped her a bit with coordinating all the ladies and finding places to go (she lives in another city), but after that, she’s taking over it all.

As for my bridesmaids, I asked if they’d be willing to come over and help with a few DIY projects I have going.  Both were more than happy to help me, and I am offering wine, snacks, and horrible reality television for their time.  As PP said though, unless they offer, I wouldn’t delegate anything to them.  I picked the ladies I did because they’re special to me, and I wanted them standing next to me on the big day.  It doesn’t make a difference to me if they do a thousand tasks or none, I still see them in the same light as before, amazing women who mean the world to me.  🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

my Maid/Matron of Honor could rival martha, and she keeps offering to help but other than that i wouldn’t delegate. Unless they ask and you trust their DIY skills!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think this is a great question. Both my Maid/Matron of Honor and close bridesmaid are dying to help. They ask me about it all the time, but I never know what to say… I don’t expect them to do anything, but it would still be nice to have ideas of what they COULD help with. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ouch… this was a fine question… we don’t need to be harsh ladies.  @bluebutterfly — coordinating the bridal shower and bachelorette party is a great task for your Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs.  Especially since it sounds like your bridal party (or at least your MOH) is very willing to help out!  Also, the next time your Maid/Matron of Honor asks what she can help with, maybe you can turn the question around and ask her what she would like to help with.  I also have a bridal party that is pretty eager to help out, but I haven’t delegated much.  So far, one of my BMs has taken it upon herself to make nail appointments for all of us.  Also, I asked my sister to make sure that all of the rest of the bridesmaids were purchasing their dresses and shoes in a timely manner.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Well, here’s the tasks I had the ladies help with (again, after they offered):

  • Bachelor Party/Bridal Shower (theme, decorations, invites, food, etc.)
  • invitations – envelope liners, and stamping RSVP envelopes
  • Dress fitting – Having my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid go so they can see how to bustle my dress (2 of my bridesmaids also went with me to pick up my dress)
  • Centerpieces – My lovely ladies are helping me cut, assemble, tape, etc my centerpieces

That’s pretty much it.  But really, I’d just think of any small task that doesn’t take a whole lot of running around and ask if they’re willing to help.  If they’ve already offered, it means they WANT to help!  I really had to learn that!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, just thought I’d chime in again – for envelope stuffing or DIY projects you may want help on I think it’s cute to throw a party, buy them some wine and food, and make it a fun time. I’m not much of a delegating person, either, and I think there’s a huge misconception out there that if you’re delegating you are a Bridezilla. But if the BMs have asked to help, I think it’s rude to not include them if you’re doing a lot of planning on your own. I know when Future Sister-In-Law was getting married I really wanted to be included, and she always send she’d tell us ways to could help, but never ended up talking to 5 of the 6 BMs about it anymore. We kind of felt like we weren’t wanted. 

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