(Closed) How to deter uninvited guests?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Maybe put on the RSVP that so many seats have been reserved for their party?

Post # 4
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You add a bit that says "X number of seats have been reserved for you" and then YOU fill in the number of seats before you send it.

Post # 6
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I did "X number of seats have been reserved for you" AND I put their names on it so they can’t invite just ANYONE to fill those seats.  Lots of work?  Yes.  Control freak? Yes.  Ambiguity?  Not a drop.

Post # 8
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

For my single friends I put


_____yes, I will accept

_____no, I regretfully cannot accept


I am going to insert a  special note limiting the single friends to no guests explained that I am only having 50 guests, family, cousins, lifelong friends and my NYC friends and that if they can’t make it last minute ot let me know so others can bring dates

Post # 9
405 posts
Helper bee

We’re also doing ___ number of seats have been reserved for you and are writing exactly who is invited on the envelope and listing names on the RSVP card (they have to pick a menu option anyway!).

Post # 10
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

for krgk84:

Here is just the wording part of my RSVPs.  I have a header on the real ones, but I don’t think it’s relevant and I’m not done with them yet…

Also, the Rockies Game is in reference to the private clubhouse I rented for the Rockies game the night of our wedding.  In order to leave a ticket at their place setting, I need to know if they will be coming!  (Some people, like my grandma, may come to the reception, but not the baseball game.) [attachment=187924,14799] [attachment=187924,14819] [attachment=187924,14820]

Post # 11
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I so wish I did this. I’m an idiot, despite reading weddingbee religiously. I guess I don’t feel like I should have done something until after I didn’t do it..and our invites are being printed as we speak. This is completely going to be a problem for us, and I even know which guests it will be a problem with (my dad’s cousins, for one)- so I am going to just have to ask whoever’s immediate guest the person is (my dad in that example) call them to explain that they can’t bring people. 

I’m hoping its only a +1 problem not families trying to bring their children. For the most part we gave guests to everyone, with the exception of SINGLE people (regardless of age!) who had a lot of family or friends who’d be at the wedding and did not have to travel to get to it.  

Post # 12
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I addressed the envelopes to who was invited. 

My rsvp:

_______of  2 of the people in my posse will be there.


I printed the invites myself. So each one was specific to the guest. I also had rehearsal dinner rsvp on the same sheet, so some also had the rehearsal dinner, some did not.  

Post # 13
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


Your RSVP cards are so awesome! I love the little food icons. And too cool that you are renting a box for the Rockies game!!

Post # 14
2640 posts
Sugar bee

@Monalisa -That’s right.  Don’t sweat it.  It might feel a bit uncomforatable to have to tell someone that they can’t bring extra guests, but:

1.  If they are disregarding social etiquette, they deserve the awkward cal.

2.  If they don’t know social etiquette,  you can be the one to enlighten them.  Lucky you!

They are the ones who messed it up not you.  Probably doesn’t make you feel better.  But there’s only so much you can do.  Good luck.

Post # 15
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

@Gerbera: Thank you!  It was truly a labor of love, and I can’t wait for them to go out!

Post # 16
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Bwahaha!  I’m laughing so hard at your RSVP cards, MightySapphire!  I especially love "First Dog Obama" with the bone for the meal choice.  LOL!


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