(Closed) How to diet in a healthy way? (Long ramble)

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think counseling might be a good idea, so you can work on issues related to your prior eating behaviors and to help you really understand how damaging and unhealthy they are.

The  good news is that you are not trapped between either having an ED and being overweight. You can lose weight in a healthy way, but you do have to be more careful to be sure you don’t fall into old habits. Healthy weight loss should normally start with very small changes. Start drinking more water, doing 30 min exercise per day, and measuring your portion sizes. Let your Fiance (or someone else close to you) keep you accountable by making sure you are still eating healthy amounts (ie normal sized servings, 3 meals a day or something similar). Counting calories may also be helpful for losing weight, but since your prior unhealthy behavior involved calorie counting, it’s probably best to avoid that approach for now. Also make sure you allow yourself to eat the foods you enjoy in moderation.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

What about a different way of thinking about food? I recently found http://www.whole9.com and have embarked on their Whole30. I have had a very tenuous relationship with food and disordered eating. At first this change seemed impossible & I kept reminding myself that I can do anything I want after 30 days. I’m about 2 weeks in an feel better than ever. I eat foods based on hunger instead of craving. Plus, no tracking or weighing or counting. Just eat as much real, whole food as you need to satiate your hunger. The change is so amazing. Especially for me- who has had a no hold barred relationship with food for the last year. 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Go to a wegmans or a whole foods and explore the veg and fruit section. Buy a new cookbook and start learning how to enjoy food in a different way. Buy new things you have never tried, explore ways of roasting vegetables ( I like olive oil, sea salt and lots of pepper in the oven ). People who have healthy diets love food, but see it as a way to nourish themselves. Feel good about what you are eating by choosing things like fish and lean meats. Consider food an investment in your health and dont be afraid to shell out more money for fresh ingredients. Pay attention to how you feel physically after you eat something.

If you eat a bread product, try to make sure it has 3 grams of fiber per 100 calories and some protein.

Dont eat after 6 pm and NEVER DRINK SUGARY BEVERAGES. well, not never, but no more than two or three times a week. Learn to love water and tea, drinking sugar reprograms your brain to crave sweets. I kicked pop in a couple months and now drinking pop is almost impossible, its like maple syrup to me. I also get sick of sweet things after a few bites, I find most desserts make me feel ill now and I dont associate eating those things with feeling good.

Allow yourself to eat one indulgent thing a day as long as its not over 200 calories. Do not feel guilty about it, life is short. Allow yourself one day a week to eat your favorite foods like pizza, just keep your portions reasonable and if you go overboard just exercise a bit more the next day.

Take walks any time you can. See them as meditiation and enjoy the time to yourself.

 

REMEMBER, food is one of the great pleasures in life, but we should love our bodies enough to give it the good stuff.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t diet. Seriously. If you are recovering from an eating disorder, actively dieting is the worst thing you can do.

If its unhealthy for you to be at whatever weight you are at right now, then you should contsult a dietician who deals with people suffering from disordered eating. If you are simply not comfortable in your own skin, then you should not be focusing on losing weight at all and instead focusing on your own happiness.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@CarpeDiemBee:  

 I feel as though if I told anyone this they would think I was over reacting, that it really isn’t a big deal.  Or they would judge me in a “yea, okay, someone as overweight as you?” kind of way and think I’m only saying these things for attention or something. 

If there is anywhere that the counselors have their offices overwhelmed with people with eating disorders, its a college campus. They won’t think you are overreacting.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@CarpeDiemBee:  

 I feel as though if I told anyone this they would think I was over reacting, that it really isn’t a big deal.  Or they would judge me in a “yea, okay, someone as overweight as you?” kind of way and think I’m only saying these things for attention or something.


I had a completely different problem before, but I felt the exact same way. I thought that if I went to counseling, the counselor would tell me I was wasting their time and I should be able to solve my own problems. When I finally went to the counseling center, they had me take an assesment and I was shocked by how high my score was in certain areas. The counselor told me she was glad I came in because my problems were too severe to handle on my own and she could help me.

What I’m trying to say is: your feelings are not uncommon, but try to push yourself to go just to try it out. If the counselor agrees that you don’t have a problem or couldn’t benefit from their help, you’ve only lost 1 hour of your life. Otherwise, they can help you form a plan to help you change your relationship with food and your body.

Also, counseling records are confidential and protected by laws that are taken very seriously. Counseling center employees are under very strict rules not to discuss their patients at all and can have very harsh punishments if they violate those rules. If you’re worried about other students seeing you there, you shouldn’t feel embarrassed about asking for help when you need it, but if it makes you feel better, wear a hat and dark sunglasses so people won’t recognize you.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

As a former psych major and someone who has watched several very close friends/relatives struggle with ED, I really encourage you to at least look into counseling. If it makes you feel any better, a lot of my psych professors recommended going to a few sessions of counseling even if things were going well, because it helps you gain perspective on what it would be like for potential future clients. It’s no one’s business but your own, but if anyone asked, you could always attribute it to that reason. 

I also think it’s really important for you to continue to be open and honest with your Fiance, even if it’s difficult. Vocalizing the thoughts you are having can help you keep perspective on what is actually accurate, and also, by making it a “team” thing, you might feel less stress. I.e., it’s not “how do I lose weight” but “how do we develop a healthier lifestyle”.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@mamadingdong:  just chiming in to say the link you posted led to a Japanese snowboarding site — I did a quick google and think this is what you meant 🙂 http://whole9life.com/

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

@CarpeDiemBee:  Please reconsider counseling.

People thought I was crazy when I told them I binged (purged only a couple times) because I am a healthy weight.  I am a dietitian and people thought I was just being “hard on myself” when in actuality, I know the calories of everything without looking at a label and ate low calorie and exercised all day and binged at night.

The first counselor DID tell me that my behaviors were NORMAL!!!  WTF?!!  But then I went to an eating disorder specialist.  She gives me my sessions at 50% off since my insurance does not cover mental health, and I go once every 3 weeks.  It is a priority in my budget because my thoughts about weight and food were taking over my life.

Just because you are not acting on your thoughts does not mean that you don’t have disordered thinking and you are at the tipping point of putting it into action.  I know the feeling of wanting to restrict and do it perfectly and better than others and have that CONTROL.  But believe me when I say the feeling of having a good relationship with food and eating what I want when I want (and I’ve actually lost 20 lbs over the last year in therapy) is the most liberating experience I’ve had in my entire life.

I didn’t look at the other posts, but if anyone is giving you diet advice please don’t even think about it.  As someone that has tried to control my weight with everything but listening to my body, I know the pull to try more tips but the mental makeup of what you described with your history is like a minefield for health tips.  It will be little health tip gone awry back into restrictive behavior balanced with binges purges laxatives obsessive exercising etc. because of restriction.

If you won’t go to therapy start with mechanical eating.  While you are doing that, read the book Intuitive Eating.  It is a gradual change and weight loss will be slow, but it will change your life forever.  And you won’t gain the weight back.  You will gain trust in your body, and your body will tell you what to eat and when.  You will get rid of the emotional eating.  I had some success with reading just the book.  But then relapsed into disordered eating.  (I did not have a true eating disorder either, but my thoughts were definitely disordered.  It is a matter of time before it progresses into action).  You will have the most success with counseling.

Please, please, please for the sake of your body and your mental/emotional health, and your future children (who will learn behavior from you), reconsider counsling.  Either go to the one on campus (and consider being open about your issues.  There is no telling how many people you can help by sharing your own experience!! –but I understand if you aren’t ready for that!!!!) or find someone who will charge you per a sliding scale (no insurance and based on your income). 

Good luck!  HUGS!!!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

@CarpeDiemBee:  Of course!  Please message me whenever you want if there is any way I can help you!!  XO

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