How to discourage social media during the ceremony???

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should I try this or let guests do whatever they want??
    Ask them to refrain from social media until reception : (51 votes)
    62 %
    Let them do whatever they want : (31 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 31
    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I think it’s very easy to discourage people from using their phones/iPads/cameras/etc during the ceremony. We included it on our programmes, on a chalkboard sign at the entrance to the ceremony site, and our officiant mentioned it before the ceremony started. To my knowledge no-one took photos (or at any rate, I didn’t see any on social media or in the pro pics). 

    However, guests immediately started taking pictures/Snapchatting etc. after the ceremony and I loved it. It was so cool to wake up the next morning on our honeymoon and look through what friends had posted. 

    So it worked really well for us, and I would seriously reccommend the way we did it to anyone else.

    Post # 32
    1219 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We wrote on our order of service that we would prefer no photos during the church ceremony, and that photos taken during the party could be shared on a specific website. That way we made sure there were no horrible photos of us on Facebook, and no one could post anything before we did.

    A friend of mine looked beautiful in her wedding day, but a couple of hours after the ceremony someone posted a pic of her on Facebook where all you could see was back fat (it was the way she was standing, nothing to do with her dress) No bride wants that, especially when you have a pro taking lovely shots of you looking your best!

    Post # 33
    13700 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Phones during wedding would annoy me (though was not an issue at mine as my guests knew how to act appropriately, which is apparently uncommon here)…. but written statements telling me what not to do would annoy me more.  As an adult, I know not to sit and hold an ipad up to take photos or to livesteam a wedding — that’s just basic politeness.

    My wedding was in a circle setup.  I’ve gone through all the pictures after the fact since this kind of thread comes up a lot, and there’s not a single photo of a guest holding up a camera or a phone.  I didn’t have to dictate their behavior to them; they simply knew how to act as an adult in this kind of a social situation.

    If you feel the need to remind your guests on how to act appropriately, a short and simple from your officiant would be sufficient.

    Post # 34
    1123 posts
    Bumble bee

    We had an unplugged wedding ceremony and didn’t even request it. I only found months later from a friend that the minister had made an announcement before the ceremony asking everyone to refrain from taking photos during it. I’m not sure if it was the minister or photographer who thought of it but I’m so glad they did…I remember seeing everyones smiling faces as I walked down the aisle and the photos from that moment are also great. If phones had been involved, well it wouldn’t have been the end of the world, but it wouldn’t have been as special. Also it can ruin other peoples view of the ceremony/aisle walk if someone is desperately holding their phone in the air. 

    Post # 35
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Before our wedding I was worried about everyone having their phone out but honestly I didn’t even notice anyone except my husband at the end of the aisle.  Also, our Father-In-Law gave us an album of photos he took that were from a very different angle than our official photos, and it was really nice to have those.  I don’t think you’ll notice tons of phones and cameras unless you’re looking for them, and it might be nice to look at the photos and videos later.  

    Recently I was also at a wedding where the DOC stood up and made a very harsh announcement about social media (although photos were allowed) and it came across as kind of bratty, to be honest. It was a wedding in my husband’s family though so I don’t know what’s gone down in the past to make the couple ask for that announcement.

    Post # 36
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    LaPetiote :  may I ask which specific website you used? 

    Post # 37
    1219 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    prip02 :  it was called capsule I think. But it was 4 years ago, I just googled it and it came up with an app called capsule cam. Ours was just a website so I guess things have evolved since then!! 


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