(Closed) How to do a seating chart when you don't know guests names?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it would be more offensive to show up at a wedding and be “and guest” than for you to call or email before hand and ask. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

GENIUS IDEA!! Call and say, “since you didn’t write down the names of your kids, I just wanted to confirm the spellings for our seating chart.” 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would definaely find the names. For “and guests” I would just cal land ask who their guest will be. For the kids is there anyway to find out through the grape vine? Otherwise I would just call and ask.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@chasesgirl:  agreed. John Smith was the rude one, for not telling you his guest’s name.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsLulu:  clearly a glass of wine after work makes me smart 😉

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MrsLulu:  There is no reason it will risk your job. They didn’t give your their guest’s name, and unless you work as a psychic there is no reason they should assume to know it.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MrsLulu:  Not sure if sarcasm or not…. So not sure how to respond. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsLulu:  what if you have a casual convo and say you are excited to meet the missus. They will either correct you with the right name or agree. You can then put Mrs. Doe or Ally McBeal, or whatever it is.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Can’t you just ask the boss in the same way you ask about parents of kids?

Hey Bob, Can’t wait to see you at the wedding, we are just finalizing the seating chart and want to confirm the spelling of your partner’s name.

There is absolutely no grounds for termination in that question.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hope you get some creative ideas for the seating chart.  Sadly, I got nothin’ except these 1) Go for open seating.  This way, your chart delimma is solved but you will create an organization dilemma. 2) Seat by group.  name your tables things like “The Office for Her” “The Office for Him” “Her Cousins”  “His Cousins” “College Friends”.  This could get crazy though and confuse guests. It may also offend people to be so generalized. So, It sounds like you pretty much have to decide if you can ask for names or not, and you’d rather not ask.  If someone is the type to be offended by just asking for a name, imagine how they would feel if their guest or child is not named.   I may suck, but I choose asking over both of my suggestions  :-/

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Is there not someone at work that would know the names of your bosses’ SO’s? an assistant? secretary? 

 

Post # 16
Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

You ask.

 

As someone who has the pleasure of being “guest and “_____” (yes the card was blank) it is really not a pleasant feeling. There really isn’t any excuse for not being able to communicate in some way and ask for a name. 🙂

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