Post # 1
It sounds crazy!! Yes, I know! lol Well I am Catholic, went to Catholic school and all, and my father is Catholic as well. My mother, however, is Indian, and her family is Hindu. Growing up with a Hindu mother, though it is not my religion, I’ve never imagined not incorporating my culture into my wedding. Then I fell in love with a southern boy. And now I am lost in what to do!! So we are getting married in his church, Southern Baptist of course and I was wondering should I even attempt to make an effort to incorporate my culutural traditions in an already extremely traditional congregation? Like would it be frowned upon? Will the little ild church ladies collapse at the sight. I’ve realized we are a already, for lack of a better word, “exotic” couple, would it be wise to have an “exotic” wedding or just stick to norm? Any suggestions, ideas, reassurances, anything, is greatly appreciated!!
Oh and no I haven’t spoke to my Fiance or the pastor about this, I don’t want to go into that topic blind, I’d like to have a gameplan first lol.
Thanks sooo much!!!!
Post # 3
Oh I think you should have the traditional baptist wedding… and then.. the reception make it indian! imagine the colors!! the food!! the music!
Im jealous now… I loveeeeeee indian food.
Post # 4
I am not sure, so don’t quote me on this but being from the South and having grown up with many Southern Baptist friends/relatives, I am not sure that they would *allow* you to incoporate other faiths/traditions in your service. I’m sure it depends on the pastor, etc. but if you are having an honest-to-goodness 100% SOUTHERN Baptist wedding (which is different from just a plan old Baptist wedding) then you are going to run up against some obstacles.
Churches who belong to the Southern Baptist Convention are typically extremely conservative and limited in what they will allow in worship. I’d suggest talking to your pastor.
I don’t mean this to sound condescending, but is your Fiance an actual Southern Baptist (meaning his church belongs to the SBC?) or is he a Baptist from the South, and you are just using the term “Southern Baptist” to describe his church? Because there is a huge difference theologically and rules-wise between the two factions.
Post # 5
Its all Good, don’t mind watching your tongue with me, I’m here for the blatant truth. lol He is an honest to goodness Southern Baptist, and he belongs to a SBC. And that was the same thing I was thinking, that it would be just plain blasphemy to do anything but the traditional when having a SB wedding. I really wonder how accepting and honestly, comfortable, my wedding guests who belong to the SBC would feel in a wedding and especially a reception that was out of the norm for them. But at the same time I don’t want to sacrifice my one and only wedding day for fear of being frowned upon by some of my guests, not to mention shocking them, because it’d definitely be a surprise for the attendees lol.
Thanks a million for your comment, I’m kind of nervous to speak to the pastor about it though. lol
Post # 6
You can add little indian touches to your wedding. Like wear henna on your hands, change into and indian dress for the reception, tell your friends to prepare a bollywood dance and rather then having a bachelorette party have a small mehndi ceremony.
There is so much you can do and most of all enjoy every bit of your wedding.