- 5 years ago
Our intimate wedding of 50ish people is set and booked! We decided on a relaxed guest list of close friends and immediate family, and a private restaurant room as our venue. No family members or friends have offered to throw a shower/buck and doe or party, so we decided to skip all the pre-wedding formalities and just have a stress-free wedding day.
Recently, a friend of mine has come forward to let me know that my FI’s rugby team has decided a buck & doe for us in the following year, upon hearing that we weren’t doing any of the traditional parties and such. Fiance and I are extremely touched by this despite our social anxiety (ha!) and a wife of a team member has assured me that they will plan everything for us.
The drawback is that I don’t know how to handle who to invite and what to expect. I understand that this is a celebration but will also raise money for a wedding. How would I go about this? Pictures will almost certainly go out on Facebook and be posted by others, and we won’t be able to keep this a secret from family. My friend knows about our intimate/small wedding plans. I don’t know what the etiquette is for this- should I tell family about this but somehow make it clear that the wedding will still be tiny? Had we not booked our venue already we could consider opening it up to extended family but it’s too late in the game now.