Post # 1
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
So, as I have mentioned on several posts (and seeing two other bees post something that mentions even parties) we are only having our kids in the wedding. One boy, 3 girls. IF I do the traditional thing and have all girls on my side then I will have 2 more than him. I am not really planning on a whole, let’s walk down the aisle before or after for them (they also are not really going to have titles like best man, flower girl, etc) but I am thinking my photos might look better if his daughter stands by him too. I thought our daughter might be upset, but she is such a mommy’s girl that she is going to want to stand right nect to me.
What are your opinions?
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
I definitely think it should be his kids on his side and your kids on your side! I think the boy side / girl side “tradition” is less important when children of the bride or groom are involved.
Of course you can mix it up and do lots of photos anyway. One thing I’ve seen a few times is the child(ren) standing in front of the bride and groom in some photos. That depends on how tall the children are though.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
MrsUPS: I think you should do whatever the two of you think is best for you and your children.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
aussiemum1248: The only problem with that is we share a child. And about the height, his daughter is 6’2″ and I am 5’4″. I am already having to compete with her dad, I dont want to have to compete with her too much…LOL!! I know people are going to look at the pictures and say who is that woman?
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
MrsUPS: you’re worried about his daughter’a height?? Why?
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
HannahGrace: The other poster said to stand them in front of us during pictures. I can not stand someone who is almost a foot taller than me in front of me.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
MrsUPS: Why not ask the kids for some input on the poses? They might really appreciate – especially the older ones – having a hand in the planning, and they might have some good ideas, too. Worried about a power struggle? Try it with the photographer present, so that s/he guides the discussion.
I would definitely suggest taking some test shots on your own to see what you like. Line everyone up in your backyard or against a neutral backdrop (closed curtains would work) and take some shots with the self-timer and tripod. Don’t worry about how the photos themsleves turn out – you’re looking strictly at the overall composition. This will give you an idea of the lineup you prefer for your ceremony, too. I think the lineup would likely look most balanced with her next to her dad, but play around and see what you like.
It’s hard for me to say how I would shoot your wedding since I don’t know everyone’s heights and the kids’ ages. Given the height difference between you and your stepdaughter, I would try some shots with you and your husband seated and the kids around you, again keeping your stepdaughter on her dad’s side. I’m not sure of the ages and other heights involved, but you could stand the oldest two behind you and put the little ones on ottomans either in front or to the side of you.
Having the oldest girls seated on the floor (with the little ones standing or seated, depending) might be an option if they’re wearing floor-length gowns, though be careful as it could look a little dated.
I woul definitely consult with your photographer(s). They’ve certainly had to come up with creative solutions before, and I’m sure whatever you wind up doing will be beautiful 🙂
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
ladybennett: Thanks for the ideas! We are actually having a family / engagement shoot in Aug with the same photographer so we can play around with it some then.
The other 3 are 8, 10 and 14 and they are about average height. My son hates that his future stepsister is so much taller than him, he is about an inch or two taller than me.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
MrsUPS: That sounds like a great opportunity! You could also think about having your son and your stepdaughter flanking you and your husband, respectively, with the two little girls (I’m assuming they’re the 8 & 10-year-olds) standing in front.
Congratulations on your engagement, and wishing you all much happiness 🙂
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