Post # 1
I am having three attendents – My sister is Maid/Matron of Honor, then I have one other bridesmaid and one brides’man’ (my gay brother and BFF). Fiance is having three attendents – all male.<br />I don’t know how to dress them! At first I was thinking everyone could be mismatched – but I don’t think Fiance wants his guys to be mismatched and it seems like so much extra effort.<br />Then I thought I should have my bridesman in the same suit as the groomsmen but I don’t really want that either because I don’t want him to be confused as a groomsman.<br />I’m thinking I will have the bridesmaids in matching dresses with him in a suit of a similar colour, and the groomsmen in slightly darker/different matching suits. But then is it going to look weird that my bridesman will be in a suit that is not matching anyone else? I don’t particularly want him to stand out too much or for people to wonder what he is meant to be… but I know that’s unavoidable considering he is male lol<br />Maybe he could just have a slightly different coloured tie? But then again I don’t even know if they will be wearing ties since it is a beach wedding and not quite as formal.<br />Has anyone had something similar before? Photos? Please help! I’m so bad at styling 🙁
Post # 2
I had a bridesman and he wore the same thing as the groomsmen. No one confused him as he was standing behind me and walked down the aisle with the rest of my friends. No one was worried about which side he was on and he didn’t feel strange about it.
If you’re wanting something to make him different from the groomsmen then maybe you could give him a different detail. Are you doing boutonnieres? Maybe he could have a different coloured one to match the girls’ dresses?
Post # 3
My Fiance and the groomsmen will wear black tuxes, and his groomsgal us wearing a black dress. My bridesmaids are wearing navy, and my bridesguy is wearing a navy suit. He will have a boutineer to match the men and the gal will have a bouquet to match the girls. if my guy doesn’t have navy, I don’t mind if he wears black.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
One of my cousins had a bridesman – he wore black pants, white shirt and a tie the same colour as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Looked fine!
Post # 5
We had people follow the same guidelines regardless of which side they were on during the ceremony. I just recently realized when looking at photos that our groomswoman who wore a suit (we also had a groomswoman who wore a dress) wore a silver tie and everyone else wore bluish purplish ties, but it took me this long to notice, obviously it’s not a big deal!
One thing that ended up happening was the florist gave a bouquet to my bridesman (yay gay brothers!) and a boutonnière to both of our groomswomen, but he rocked that bouquet lol.
Maybe your bridesman could wear a vest instead of a jacket?
Post # 6
I have a bridesman and he’s wearing a bowtie instead of ties like the groomsen, all in the same colour.
Post # 7
I have three bridesmaids in mixed grey dresses and one bridesbutler (ha!) in grey slacks, a purple tie and a white shirt. The groomsmen will be in grey slacks but probably with vests and ties. So I suppose my guy will be slightly more casual but I don’t care.
Post # 8
I have a bridesmaid wearing menswear, and she is weaing the same shirt veat and the groomsmen, but her tie will have the same print as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. My Fi is also having a groomsmaid in menswear and she is wearing the same thing as the groomsmen.
Post # 9
I am so happy to see this opened up discussion about bridesmen because I have a bff that I really would like to be a bridesmen! So happy to hear there are ways to do this.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
I have a man of honor and this is how we are doing it: groomsmen are all wearing navy blue suits, white shirts, probably light pink ties. My two bridesmaids are picking their own dresses but they will be either blush or soft neutrals. My gown is blush. My man of honor will wear a tan suit, white shirt with a pink/blush bow tie and suspenders. The suspenders were all his idea. Haha. So he will really match my girls more than the groomsman, but it won’t be “matchy matchy “.
Post # 11
DH had a woman of honour, so the opposite situation. She wore the same dress as the bridesmaids but in black to show that she was different. For your situation maybe you could have your brides man wear a shirt the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses?
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2015 - Poulsbo, WA
I have this same situation! I am having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor, my female cousin as my bridesmaid, and my brother as my bridesman. My Fiance is having his three brothers as his groomsmen. The two girls are wearing this dress:
And these are the guys’ ties. I found them on Etsy!
My fiance will be wearing the white one. The light green one happens to match the girls’ dresses almost perfectly, so my brother will wear that one. The groomsmen can choose between the other three. My fiance has a charcoal suit and white shirt, and all the other guys will wear black or gray pants and white shirts, no jackets. Good luck dressing your dudes!
Post # 13
My bff was my bridesman – because my dress was a dirndl and the bridesmaid dresses wore dirndl, he wore lederhosen. Which suits us because we became good friends on exchange in Germany. The groomsmen wore black suits and vests with ties that matched the bridesmaid dirndl. He had a buttonhole, not a bouquet.