Post # 1
Bees, I need advice. I’ve been so stressed lately (we’re in the process of buying a house, i work full time, there are constant delays and complications), and it’s really having a bad effect on me.
I’m constantly exhausted, even after sleeping in, I keep getting headaches, my eyes are always sore, I’m emotional to the point where I’ve twice broken down crying hysterically at SO even though he’s done nothing wrong – My body is reacting like I’m suffering from severe PMS even though I’m not, full on acne, soreness, being all run down and I’m frankly horrified at how this has affected my behaviour.
Before you say, as many have done, no, I’m not pregnant. It’s just stress, but I don’t have a clue how to ease it. The more I sleep, the more I sleep, and if I eat to calm my stomach I just further ruin my diet. SO is incredibly understanding, but I need to do something, anything to get rid of this stress. Any ideas, bees?
Post # 3
Sometimes its all a matter of perspective, we get so wrapped up in our lives that everything seems so insurmountable, it all becomes a life or death situation and the tiniest things can send us into a tailspin…that’s bad.
I try to maintain a healthy idea of exactly where I fit in the scheme of things….and that is just about as significant to everyone else as a hummingbird shitting over the Atlantic Ocean…my little life and all of the details therein are just that, little.
Which is great, being little and insignificant is a wonderful place to be, the world may not be resting on my shoulders and I certainly won’t change the fate of this planet, but there’s like 7 people who honestly care about me and how I feel….and I think that’s neat.
So what if I gotta drop $1,000 on a brake job, and the main line to the sewer needs to be replaced, who cares if the dog barfed on my Scandanavian sofa and then the other dog ran through it on my white carpet….it’s just stuff, it’s only money and this is life….worse things have happened to better people for certain.
So I laugh, I laugh on the way to the shop, and share a beer with the contractors for fixing my plumbing, a laugh at the puke puddles in the house and remember that I’m just so grateful for the people in my life that the rest is something that reminds me I’m still alive.
I don’t know if that helps, but I hope it does, you’re in charge of how you react to things, so take charge of it.
Post # 4
Do you have kids or have any friends/family with little babies? My son is 18 months old and whenever I feel stressed or have a bad day, I cuddle up with him and holding him and hearing him laugh make me feel a million times better. Sounds cheesy, but works for me!
Post # 5
@TopazTurtle: First of all, let me say, congrats on that house! Amazing accomplishment. Although I haven’t been in your specific situation, I am high-strung and easily get stressed over life-changing events, even when they’re good. Right now it’s over getting married — a small ceremony.
In your case, getting a house is your life-changer and it is a BIG deal. It’s supposed to be what they call “good stress.” But it’s still stress.
The only thing I can recommend is having at least a few days off from everything. I think you need to be able to recuperate from being constantly frazzled and occupied.
You might just need to cry all day during those days off, but it will eventually leave your system. After you get the house, things will settle down too.
Always remember, “this too shall pass.” 🙂
Post # 6
@TopazTurtle: Going to the gym helps me tremendously. It helps me manage stress better and gives me a outlet for my stress. I know you said you are already tired. I wake up most mornings very tired, as well. After I go the gym, I usually feel like a different person. Also, you might want to look at taking Magnesium. It helps with my hormonal headaches and actually relaxes be a bit.
Post # 7
That’s one if the reasons I want a puppy. I truly believe in pet therapy.
Perhaps you can find something more to live for. I get very depressed too, cry for no apparent reason… What I plan on doing is trying to focus on all of the positive things going on in my life & trying to make something positive out of the not-so-great things I’m dealing with.