Post # 17
@tropicalfish914: Way to go to your Fiance !!! What a great step he has taken !!
@Galang_Gyal: + 100 I agree with all this-positive reinforcement. Also, my Fiance and walk a lot together after dinner in the summer and before dinner in the winter and just enjoy the time together talking- it’s as good for both our fitness as it is for our r’ship
Post # 18
I would offer to do it together 🙂
Post # 19
With exercise, definitely do it with him, or help him find a partner to do it with – people exercise more consistently when they have an appointment with someone else.
My fiancée, who is perfectly healthy but just wants to be a little more trim around the middle, especially for the summer and the wedding, asked for my help keeping her honest with her diet. Rather than tell her “you can’t have that.” I say “are you sure you want to have a second one of those today?” Not in a scolding way but just “before I get this for you and put it on a plate, are you going to be mad at me for letting you?” sort of a way. We’ve come to a place where that’s working somewhat well, though I think we’d both admit she’d have an easier time losing weight if I was strict about it, lol.
You should try to get him involved in cooking – look up things you can make that you think he’ll like, that are healthier, and show them to him. Ask him what he thinks, what he’d like to make/like you to make. Pick out some things he’s excited about trying, because they’ll taste good. Make a calendar with your daily meals on it, and put it on the fridge so he can look forward to it. My mom did that, and I loved it, even when I lived at home for part of my 20’s. Healthy food does not have to be boring or bland!
Two things to get good at to have satisfying meals that help him – vegetarian cooking, and fish. Don’t give up real meat, but your body doesn’t need it every single day. Have a vegetarian meal once a week, and a fish meal twice/week.