(Closed) How to end an engagement with CLASS

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Any way you end it, you’re more classy than him. End it however you feel like, it’s the least you deserve.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Pack your stuff and leave a note next time he goes out for a few hours.

 

“Dear ex-FH, I realized I have too much respect for myself to deal with your philandering. Don’t bother calling, I changed my number and blocked your email.  Regards, Lillette57”

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Tape your ring to a note that says “This obviously isn’t working for either of us. Please don’t try to fix things. It’s over. I wish you every happiness.” Ignore his calls and go out with your friends to celebrate. Easy peasy.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lillissa57:  Agree with PP. Just leave and tell him you’re done. Apologize to his family for any pain you might be causing them and be on your way.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

walking away and respecting yourself enough not to forgive him again is the classiest thing you can do. Pack his things, change the locks, or pack your things and just leave. Never talk or otherwise communicate with him again. I’d like to congratulate you on moving on!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Or just a note that says ‘you know why I left. Don’t call me’. 

 

Hock the ring off and get some cash to spend on yourself – haha…. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Um, he doesn’t deserve your class. Look him in the eyes and say, ‘I’m too good for you’, pack your shit and leave. Sorry for language.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I agree with amy – definitely keep the ring.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is slashing tires classy?  LOL.

I would just pack my stuff and leave the ring.  Buh bye!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First and foremost, I’d find out the Legal Requirements in your Jurisdiction in regards to whether you have to return THE RING if he has been cheating on you.

I certainly would not if I didn’t have to.  A bit of compensation for all the pain & humiliation.

Either way…

I agree with the other Bees, don’t make it big and dramatic…

Just short and sweet.

Pack and Go (you out or him out).  Done.

As he is a Serial Cheater, I’d cut all contact.  He has certainly has had HIS CHANCES.

And honey, I’d be looking for ways to make a big splash in your new found AMAZING SINGLE SELF

New Apartment – New Clothes – New Pet – New City – New Adventure (vacation ?)… or lol, just a NEW Bed.

Out with the OLD Trash, and in with the NEW FASHion

PS… As you rebuild your life you might want to read these two awesome empowering books that I found post-divorce… cannot say enough good things about either of them in figuring out what I DESERVED from a Relationship, and how to find / attract that:

Greg Behrendt’s “He’s Just Not That Into You”

and

Dr Phil’s “Love Smart ~ Find the One you Want / Fix the One you Got”

Hang in there kiddo… the best is yet to come*

(( HUGS ))

*IT truly does happen.  Met Mr TTR and cannot believe I put up with sh!t in my marriage for such an unbelievably long time.  Lol, should have left a lot sooner (and a lot younger)

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I agree with PP. Theres no classy way to end a relationship really. even if u aim to be calm i bet by the end of it one of you is screaming their heads off. he will try and convince u to stay, hes done it before. Plus how many times have you threatened to leave and hes convinced you to stay ???

 actions speak louder than words … just disappear

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with the advice to keep the note short.   Don’t write any more than necessary; it will make it seem like you are open to a dialogue and might want to talk about salvaging the relationship.  It is over.   He knows why.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He doesn’t deserve class… but I agree with PP. Don’t even give him the option to beg. Just leave a note and never return. 

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