Post # 1
Hi lovely bees! I’m looking for some help. I’m having an amazing gourmet dinner but it will be a bit longer than a regular dinner and separate from the dancing portion of the reception. The FI is a chef and I’m a food nerd to having an awesome dinner is super important to us. Its going to be a showstopper for people who like food (smoke and other cool stuff involved.)
My question is what can we do during the dinner for people who don’t care about our awesome dinner? If you aren’t a foodie a long dinner is probably really boring. I’m guessing people kinda need to stay seated to not drive the wait staff nuts. Its a FUN casual wedding so we are open to anything silly.
Details: dinner is outdoors on a lawn. The dancing will take place upstairs afterwards where we’ll also serve dessert, have a photobooth, and a lounge area. Considering: silhouette artist, giant chess or jenga, table games
Post # 3
@partypep: If your guests are adults they likely don’t need to be entertained during dinner. They will socialize at the tables.
You could provide Mad Libs, a crossword puzzle, or provide a small journal for guests to write notes to the couple.
Post # 4
@julies1949: One would assume so, but the FI’s mother disagrees and thinks people will be bored. So essentially I’m asking to appease her
Post # 5
@partypep: I like the idea of having speeches done during dinner – gives the guests something to pay attention to, and prevents you from having to stop the party to sit down and listen later. Another idea is to include a description of the course with everything that comes out – give your guests and idea of why the food you chose was so important. You could also have something like a live jazz band as entertainment if you have the budget.
Post # 6
I would agree with you, @julies1949: if this wedding was before the dawn of the smartphone. Sadly it is not, and while there are still people who will be with the group, a large portion of the populatin finds it easier to let their smartohones provide their amusement.
I think anything that keeps people able to focus on the actual tactile experiences around them and not check out onto their devices is a good idea, and outright essential.
Small wooden table games, linked puzzles, lengths of cord and instructions on knot tying, paper and origami, little cards with requests for things like their favorite recipe, information passed out about each course so that the non foodies can read up and feel engaged, whatever. Whatever helps people stay in the present. Once you lose someone to their cell phone, honestly, you’re unlikely to get them back.
Post # 7
We are also having a long dinner service; we ended up booking a hip-hop/rock electric violinist performer. She is in Los Angeles.
She plays every kind of music (she also toured with country artists) but is very much the performer. She plans to walk through the tables, take a few requests. It’s a bit of a show while eating and between socializing with other guests. Her sound man is also a saxophone player so they jam out together.
Check out her YouTube channel and website. She comes highly recommended.
Post # 8
@Bracelet00: I guess I socialize with a different group of people. None of them would think of taking out their cell phone during dinner- especially a wedding . Even those of us who are on call, know how to use the features of our phones, so notifications are not intrusive.
Post # 9
I’d just have music of some sort. Adults don’t need to be entertained during the course of the dinner. I’d rather be able to visit with the people I’m eating with.
Post # 10
@partypep: Can you play short games in-between services ? Like the shoe game (each table submits a question). Or the contrary, how well do they know the couple.
We plan on doing stuff like that, no because we’re afraid they’ll be bored, but because we really want to have fun and laugh and involve our guests, even though it’s ”our” day. Some uncles and aunts don’t know me or my FI very much. It’s a friendly way to get people to socialize and get to know us better as individuals and as a couple.
Post # 11
Oh right, I totally forgot to mention that dinner music will have noise restrictions (no amplified music.) Trust me I assumed that all adults have been to a 3 course dinner where they have to sit still, but his 60+ year old mother complaining about it made me realize that there will be fuddy duddies there with ADD. I realize I can’t make everyone happy but would love for the fuddy duddies to have something mildly entertaining to do while they stew in their crotchety-ness. I considered projecting an old black and white movie (Casablanca etc) with no sound in the back ground.
Post # 12
My friends are having a game where you answer questions about the bride and groom and get a prize at the end XD
Post # 13
We had a 5 course dinner. Which was amazing and everyone loved the food so there was zero complaining that it was too long.
We had speeches between courses and a few games. We did like a type of scavenger hunt thing which people seemed to like. One person was chosen from each table, and the DJ would tell them they had to find a certain item from the other guests: someone’s driver’s license, a high heel shoe, lipstick, a photo, etc. The guests would have to find the item and come back to the front and sit in a chair. After each round a chair would be taken away, so the last person to arrive would be elliminated. The winner got to dance the macarena with us and a bottle of champagne.
The games and speeches didn’t take up the whole time, and people were happy to socialize. I wouldn’t sweat it too much.