Post # 1
My son is just over 10 weeks old and I am wondering about how to establish a night time routine.
During the day, my son has 5-7 ounces of formula every 4 hours (timing established by our pediatrician). We feed him the last feeding of the day somewhere between 10 and 11:30pm. He is not sleeping through the night.
We have some friends whose babies are similar ages and are sleeping through the night. How can we achieve this too?
Thank you and have a great day. 🙂
Post # 2
so i didn’t have full supply due to a variety of reasons and had to bf and supplement. 10 weeks, in my opinion is too early to leave babies alone if they aren’t sleeping through the night on their own. i fully believe in the 4th trimester.
i fed on demand but also didn’t go more than 3 hours during the day since he was premie and under weight.
at 4 months another mom told me he was waking more to habit than need. so in the overnight, i stopped supplementing and just gave what he could get from me. i was still up a couple times a night.
at 6m, i did CIO. took 2 nights of crying for an hour straight, a few more day of fussing, then he’s been sleeping through the night ever since, 18 months now.
i was not ready and did not feel my son was ready prior to 6 months to do any sort of sleep training. and i am a working mom, i went back to work full time when my son was 15 weeks.
ETA: i believe at that age, are capabable of sleeping though the night. and sleepiing through the night is a 5 hour or more stretch.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. 10 weeks is too soon for babies to be sleeping through the night. Yes, there are always unicorn babies who sleep 8-10 hour stretches from early on, but they are NOT the norm 🙂
Much like PP said, We did CIO around 6 months with DS as that was the earliest I think babies are ready (we waited until 11 months with DD). He’s much better than he was, but he’s 15 months now and still wakes up at least once a night (sometimes more if he’s teething or sick). I imagine in the next few weeks we will revisit the sleep training (as soo as we steal ourselves for the middle of the night screaming when we stop giving him a bottle).
Post # 4
10 weeks is really early to expect your baby to sleep through the night- IMO. I found around 4 months was when my DS would go longer stretches during the night and woke up a lot less. For the first 2 to 3 months it was every 3 hours or so.
Also, remember that everyone’s idea of sleeping through the night is different. For some people it is only a 5 or 6 hour stretch and not a full 8 hours as I would have thought before having a baby.
Post # 5
At this point, he is way too young for any kind of sleep training. We waited til around 6 months for that. You could certainly try to establish a nighttime routine though. For us it was nurse, bath, book and bed. You can nurse or do bottle last, but there is nothing wrong with working towards putting him down drowsy but awake.
Post # 6
Stop comparing your baby to other babies. My son is 9 months old and still wakes at least once in the night for a feed.
you can do a bedtime routine from now … we did from about 12 weeks. We did a bath, then clean pjs and a story before a feed and going to bed. We put him in his own room for that part of the night and then brought him into our room from 10pm.
Post # 7
Lol. My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until 14 months, and that was after like 2 weeks of horrible sleep training.
There’s nothing wrong with establishing a bedtime routine, but expecting them to sleep through the night at 10 weeks is not realistic.
I would not attempt any type of sleep training until 6 months at the very minimum.
Post # 8
I had the unicorn sleeping baby. We just fed him frequently throughout the day and then did a night time routing and put him down around 7pm. He would go through phases of sleeping through the night or waking up. He got really bad shortly after his first birthday. He is 3 now and wakes up about half of the time to go to the bathroom. I’d adjust your expectations. These are babies and even if they sleep through sometimes, they won’t always. 6 months is generally when sleep training is started.
Post # 9
I will reply individually shortly.
I want to clarify that I know he is still very young for this. Having discussions with friends, I feel as though we may be doing the wrong thing (bad wording) because our baby is not having that same routine.
My world changed for the better when he was born, and I know he will have a lot of needs at this age. He is also showing signs of teething recently.
Post # 10
I highly recommend you read some child development books. Gaining that knowledge will help you feel okay when your child is not doing exactly what other kids his age are. Knowledge is power, and the more knowledge you have the better equipped you’ll be to raise the happiest, healthiest, most well-adjusted child. There’s books on sleeping, handling tantrums, etc and they’ll make your life easier.
So as far as routines — They make baby tracker journals where you can write down feedings, diaper changes, sleep, etc. You can also do it on your phone with apps. I recommend you do this for naps because it helps you get a more mathematical understanding of everything. Your baby probably sleeps the exact same amount every day. Even though one night he sleeps more than others, and some naps are 2 hours and others are 20 minutes, I pretty much guarantee it adds up. Being able to calculate will help.
Once you have a better understanding of what your baby is doing, get your routine together. Like reading a book and feeding a bottle, for instance. Your routine and your baby’s routine will slowly merge into one that you are both happy with. Just give it time, and try your best not to compare your baby with other babies, because it’ll always drive you crazy.
Congrats on your little one!!
Post # 11
Just wanted to pop in — regardless of the “is 10 weeks to young to sleep through the night” I agree that a nighttime routine is beneficial. We found that our daughter went to bed MUCH easier and was a better sleeper* when we had a set, strict rourtine. Routine was very simple: by 6:30 turn the lights off, sound machine on, humidifer on, NO eye contact (it’s stimulating for babies), no more talking, undress baby, feed baby, put baby in crib by 7 pm every. single. night. Sometimes that meant skipping an evening activity for us, but it was well worth it.
If you’re worried that your baby is feeding for comfort rather than hunger, try soothing him first. Just cuddle and rock him. Sometimes they just want their mama, as hard as that can be for us at 3 am.
*”Going to bed” was sleeping from 7-11, feeding, 11-4/5, feeding, ~6-7 up for the day. The upside of this semi-bedtime was that we skipped her witching hour (which was really just her being over tired). She dropped the dream feed first, and was still waking up around 5 to feed for about a month+, and then she started sleeping through the night when she was closer to 6 months. All in all, we’ve been VERY lucky with her sleep patterns. Good luck!
Post # 12
Sleeping through the night varies child by child. I have the easiest kid ever to put to sleep and have since she was 6 weeks old and she’s now almost 14 months and she sleeps through the night maybe once a week. Other babies her age are sleeping 11-14 hours a night every night. Some are up every 2 hours still. You can’t make them sleep longer than they’re going to sleep I’ve learned.
Establishing a bedtime routine will help make for more predictable sleep patterns and give you a sense of normalcy. Personally, a 10:30-11 PM last feeding or bedtime is really really late. What time is the previous feeding before that one? I would start working that feeding before the 10:30 one as bedtime. Your 10 week old is probably going to get up 2-3 times per night so 10:30-11:30 and again at 2:30-3:30 would be what I classify as MOTN wake ups.
Don’t put too much thought or emphasis on this, your baby will find a sleeping grove and pattern. Some just take longer. Do prep them for their nighttime sleep, bathtime, quiet dark room with little noise, final bottle, rocking and then to bed.
Post # 13
My daughter turned 1 in August and she has been an awful sleeper since. Your comment about how he slept poorly right after 1 gives me hope she will sleep again someday. Hopefully soon haha.
Post # 14
While I agree that 10 month old is too young for sleep training, setting the routine to me is very important. We have twins (almost 7 mo), and it is interesting to see how no matter what we do, they have different needs, but they do learn the routine quick (one girl sleeps through the night, one gets up to feed once or twice.) We started bedtime routine the first night we brought them home – dim lights, bath, footied pjs, swaddle, light out, white noise, laying flat in a bassinette/crib. We never did a rocker or swing, as it is so difficult to break the habit. We did naps in a rocker or swing – now one will absolutely not nap in a crib basinette. I wish we did the same routine of putting them in a crib for naps. But at night – while they do wake up sometimes, they have no problem falling asleep without being rocked – when we give them bottles, after pjs they know it is night time and pass out drinking it. We have all the lights on, noise level up, no swaddles during the day – so they only associate those things with night time.
Post # 15
It was miserable. I was suffering with so medical problems so my husband had to handle our son in the middle of the night. It was SO bad especially since we were used to him sleeping through or waking only once.