- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
So, here’s the background story: One of my co-workers and I have become really close over the past three years. So much so that I asked her to be a bridesmaid. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is also super good friends with another co-worker, RT. RT and I are friendly… but mostly I just keep it civil/professional with her because she is so close with Bridesmaid or Best Man (they were friends before I started working at my job). After I got engaged, I was on the fence about RT being invited to the wedding but after a few months, it became pretty clear that I would NOT be inviting her. We just don’t have anything in common and I find it awkward to try to have conversations with her. So I started to sort of distance myself from RT.
The problem is, I think she assumed she was invited but about 2-3 months ago, caught on that she might not be. She has been asking me really awkward questions, ie: “How’s wedding planning coming?” [insert my polite but vague answer here], “Well, what about the guestlist? Isn’t that done?” Or the other day she asked me if I had planned my bachelorette party yet. I have been planning it and the date/location is set (which Bridesmaid or Best Man knows about). But I tried to throw RT off by saying “Oh, I don’t know anything about that. My Maid/Matron of Honor plans that” but she came back with, “But you have to know the dates at least, right?” And yesterday, she asked me if I had finished all my planning yet. I replied, “Oh there’s still plenty of things to plan. I still have over 6 months!” to which she replied, “But what about the invitations? You’re done with those right? Don’t you have to be done with those by now?”
I just feel like RT is really trying to put me on the spot about whether or not she’s invited. How do I avoid these awkward conversations?? Do I straight up just tell her that she’s not invited? Ugh, that will make things suuuuuper awkward at work but I guess it’s inevitable, right?