(Closed) How to explain that I'm not having extra rituals in my ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Just don’t do them. I am usually a direct person but when I KNOW someone is going to have a contrary opinion, and especially if it is about something as personal as your wedding ceremony, a) don’t bring it up and B) be non-commital if asked “Well, we are discussing what we want to include in our wedding ceremony and that might be an option”.

Also, totally only ever heard of presenting flowers to Mary and unity candle, I am trying to figure out how to include a lasso in a wedding and none of them seem church appropriate. 

Post # 4
2776 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t do them.  They’ve seen this done four times, there are not being deprived by not seeing it a fifth.

Does it matter to him?  IF not then surely don’t do it.  They will just have to get over it.

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Leemarie:  If it doesn’t mean anything to you and you Fiance don’t do it.

Post # 6
3696 posts
Sugar bee

@chasesgirl:  It’s a Mexican tradition. “Lasso” is the English translation of lazo, which means “rope/tie/lace” in Spanish and refers to almost anything you can tie, not just a cowboy’s lasso (i.e. a shoelace is also a lazo). In a wedding ceremony, the lazo is a double rosary. One loop is draped over the bride and the other one over the groom, symbolically linking them together.

@Leemarie:  It sounds like you are marrying into a Mexican/Latino family, but you yourself are something else? In that case, it’s totally appropriate to say something like, “We’re incorporating one of the Mexican wedding traditions, but not all of them, since it’s not something my side does.” (If there’s a tradition from your side that you can incorporate somewhere to balance it out, even if it’s at the reception rather than the ceremony, that can make for a good explanation, too.)

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