(Closed) How to explain to someone they will Not be in the bridal party

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What to Do ?
    Put her in the wedding : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Don't say anything : (29 votes)
    67 %
    Tell her the truth about why she isn't going to be included : (10 votes)
    23 %
    Comment on your helpful advice : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Stanley House Inn

     

    hogoboom2012:  I wish I had the courage to even simply say “I’m sorry, but…”. I’m currently in this situation – wedding is 3 weeks out. I caved. I caved months ago when we started planning. I had mentioned in my previous engagement that I wanted her in my bridal party. That ended (thankful!) and this relationship progressed to engagement.

    We were chatting one day and she brought it up “What color are our dresses, I need to order mine” – nothing… I caved, because I am a pansy and I let people do whatever. I am regretting every minute of this decision. I wanted my 2 closest girlfriends involved – my (5) sisters are not even part of my wedding. It was so important to me to have them and I just let it go with Bridesmaid or Best Man3… I hate the decision but I remind myself that the only thing it means is that there is one more person in the photos.

     

    Then again, there won’t be one more person in the photos anyway, since she STILL hasn’t ordered her dress…

     

    TL;DR – tell her no if she brings it up. Keep it simple – I wanted my party intimate and very tiny.

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