(Closed) How to fit them in?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had 2 girls as personal attendants. They wore their own dresses that matched the colors of the bridesmaids, were in some pictures, and were there all day to help out with little things, like handing out programs, etc.

Post # 4
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Idk I think I would feel like I got the shaft if I volunteered to help and then got the title of personal assistant.  To me thats like saying well I dont want you as a bridesmaid but feel obligated to give you some title. 

I know that thats not the case with you as you said the reason is school, but thats just how I would take it if I were in their shoes.  

But at 19 and 20 if they are responsible like you say then they can handle having more on their plates.  They could always be bridesmaids and still do whatever you think is fitting of them.

I know when I was 19/20 I would have LOVED to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 5
1736 posts
Bumble bee

You could just called them “wedding attendants” however it’s just an old term for “bridesmaid.” Honestly, it sounds like they want to be bridesmaids so I don’t think there is any harm in giving them the title but being very frank with them about not having high expectations that they do anything beyond their means. They are probably excited at the prospect of getting to dress up and participate! 🙂

Post # 6
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah, I think you should still make them bridesmaids! They would love it.  You have your other girls to do all of the more involved things for the wedding.  Let these girls help out the few days leading up to the wedding and have them stand up there with you.  That’s what I would do.

Post # 7
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why not have them as ushers? My sisters are much younger than me and there was no way I could make them bridesmaids but they were far to old to be flower girls so we made them the ushers. Who says men have to be ushers anyway? They are excited about it and are dressing as if they are in the bridal party.

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