(Closed) How to get a toddler to open birthday presents? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I haven’t met a toddler yet who is interested in opening presents. Usually they come around when they are closer to four – at least from what I’ve seen. I’m pretty sure no one cares and expects it from him. They are family anyway. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

is this an american thing like showers?

here in the UK its viewed as extreamly rude to sit and open presents in front of guests

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What if you film him opening them in his own time after everyone leaves? Then everyone can see it, and will probably get a better reaction…

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t think you can. My son, until he was over three, was really only interested in opening bag gifts…. Mostly because he wanted the tissue paper lol I would try to coax him to rip wrapping paper but he was just uninterested. I would just open them for him and show him what he got. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We just do gifts at home privately. We haven’t had a huge party since 1, but we do dinner for her at IL’s and my parents’, and take gifts home. We take a couple pics when she does open them. I don’t think it’s fair when most gifts are things they’re excited for and you take it away and make them open something else. At home you can go at their speed; when they’re done with the initial excitement, open another! 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My niece has one of those little kid chairs she loves to sit in, so my SIL puts balloons on it and brings it to the party.  My niece will sit in it and open every present at her birthday party.  Of course, there’s the occasional “I wanna play with this now” meltdown, but usually they can distract her by tearing the paper off the next present and showing her what’s inside. lol 

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

lol if you want your toddler to open his presents, tell him not to, nothing like forbidden fruit to a wee one wink

Seriously, toddlers have short attention spans, even older children will get side tracked with a present they like. 

I’m sorry your present to another parent’s child was ignored and trampled, but that’s their bad. Even if the presents weren’t being opened, they should have been moved to a place where they wouldn’t be stepped on or damaged. And the gift should have been acknowledged. Some parents you can laern what not to do from. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

How to get a toddler to open birthday presents? It’s simple – YOU DON”T.

Its a child! Making him do something hi is not interested for NO good reason is plain silly. Its the child’s birthday.  Let him have fun! 

I see no reason why a parent can’t open the present.  

But as an European the whole idea of going to a party and having to sit and watch the host open all the presents is so crazy. We always open them when everyone leaves.  But regardless, I don’t think anyone would care if a parent opens it up instead of a kid. 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sunshine09 :  Don’t make him open them at the party. You can force a kid to do anything. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper

Ask people to put them in gift bags. No unwrapping, he can see what’s in it to just pull it out, and keep passing them along until he’s about done. Most people will understand he’s ony interested for so long and should be respectful of that.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I think you have some great comments here. You’re being unfair on your child in having unrealistic expectations on him and it just creates stress for both you and him. As the mother it’s your job to keep your son happy, not to please your family and put on a show for them. If they can’t handle not seeing him open their present then they need to grow up, not your toddler!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

btob17 :  I thought it was just me! And who wants to sit and watch that anyway?

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

you could open them after the party. that’s what my cousin did for her daughter’s first birthday. they opened gifts at home the day after the party.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

kittytwo :  + 1000. It’s always a better idea to wait for the guests to leave, unless it’s just a small group of family. Small guests do not always grasp the concept of “giving” gifts. Tantrums tend to ensue.

Plus, opening gifts in front of everyone might make some people feel bad if they gave a modest gift compared to others. Best thing? Wait until everyone but a few family members has gone home. Break out the leftover cake and let your child open at leisure.🎁

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I am not sure why you are allowing this to cause you stress.  The grown ups need to calm down and let the toddler enjoy their bday party.

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