(Closed) How to get a toddler to open birthday presents? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

1st birthday *eats the paper*

2nd birthday *uninterested*

3rd birthday *interested in the first two max*


5th birthday *thanks! can i’ve the next present now!* 


“please see the same cycle for christmas” lol 

Post # 32
9429 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

At dd’s first birthday party I helped her rip the paper off one or two gifts and then I opened the rest myself while she tried to eat the paper. If people get pissy that’s their problem.

Post # 33
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Open them later and take a photo of him opening each person’s gift to send to them? Request no gifts? 

Post # 34
47187 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Birthday parties hosted for children of this age are for the adults not the kids. My parents’ rule is the one I follow with my children. Other than a birthday dinner with immedaite family only- Mom, Dad, siblings- they get to invite as many guests as they are old.

For a 2 year old- 2 guests, 3 years old- 3 guests.

If you must have a large family affair, recognize that what you are expecting is completely overwhelming for the child.. Tell the guests who bring gifts that you will be putting them aside to open later. Then make sure you follow up with thank-you notes. As the child grows older, have them particpate by including a drawing, a fingerprint etc.

Post # 35
3867 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Sunshine09 :  Of the friends that I know who have children this is what they do:

Sit your son in your lap and have either have someone else (your partner, mother, sister, etc.) open the gifts and show him (I don’t know why it matters who is really opening the gifts???) or you help him through the process and then have the gift be taken away by someone as soon as it’s opened. 

I get that it’s important to open the gifts in front of the giver because some people may have put much time, energy, and money into their gift and yes, they probably want that satisfaction of seeing him open it or getting a reaction right then in the moment. I’ve been to children’s birthday parties where my gift either wasn’t opened or was kind of discarded as soon as it was done and it’s like a “…okay then” type of a feeling. Honestly, I suggest you open them and show them to him, but do not let him have it right in that moment and then pass it off to someone and keep going. 

Post # 37
7412 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You can always tell the folks you invited that your kid has enough stuff as it is and to skip the gifts. Tell them that he’s a little kid who will be more interested in playing with the paper, and tell them to save their money.  Then you can get him a couple things to open and he can open them at his pace. People will be glad that you give them permission to show up empty handed; no matter what you think, no one is really all that excited to have to go buy and pay for a present for your child.

You can also skip the party. Toddlers don’t remember having birthday parties and all the guests are grown ups.  Throw a no-occasion get-together: a BBQ, halloween party, first sunday of football season, baseball world series party, whatever. Remove the gift-giving from the equation if you really want to have everyone get together.

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