(Closed) how to get attendants involved

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve seen it done where one or two attendants will also do a reading during the ceremony. How many do you have? Will the groomsmen want to be involved in the same way?

Be careful not to make your ceremony more involved than you really want it to be. After all, that part is not about your attendants but you and your Fiance finally saying ‘I do!’

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we are still in the process of crafting the ceremony, but will likely keep it simple and somewhat short (more time to enjoy the reception), so not much for our wedding party to do during the ceremony (other than hold rings/bouquets/fluff dresses/be supportive).  however, they’ve been really fabulous and supportive on the path to the altar and we’ll definitely be thanking them at the reception (and the rehearsal dinner and at any other point possible). 

for ways to honor/involve your party during the ceremony, perhaps you could ask them to do a brief reading (either one they write or one they have found, which would let your non-writers off the hook) or to include some  recognition/extra blessing as part of the ceremony?  For the latter, some ceremonies have openings that talk about the community coming together and supporting the couple and asking for some sort of pledge of support and/or blessing.  You could do this with the members of the wedding party – calling them out as a special group, as they are standing up for you on your wedding day, pledging to do so after.  That way, you honor them specifically for being there and standing up for you, but don’t add additional pressure of something to do.  Does that make sense?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

what kind of ceremony are you having? if its short it may not be a big deal if they are just standing there.

We are having a wedding mass. I was thinking about having the maids connect the aisle by holding hands during the "Our Father".

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Missm is right too By The Way.

The maids will be socializing with your guests during the whole day, not to mention the Maid/Matron of Honor toast.

 

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