Post # 1
as the big day begins to creep up (less than 60 days away) i’m starting to wonder how to get my attendants involved in the ceremony aside from just standing there…i mean i understand why they’re up there but i think it’d be nice if there was something to go along with it…that sounds bad but i don’t think i’m expressing it correctly…
anyway, i know my bmaids will have put in a ton of work by then so maybe all they want to do is stand there (i will run this by them)…but i was wondering how you all got them involved in the ceremony…
i have 4 bridesmaids and 2 of them are very talented writers, it seems unfair to ask everyone to write something, unless they can do it together and it also seems unfair to ask them to do anything additionally anyway…so i’m wondering if you all have any suggestions or if you think i’m crazy and should just let it go…
Post # 3
I’ve seen it done where one or two attendants will also do a reading during the ceremony. How many do you have? Will the groomsmen want to be involved in the same way?
Be careful not to make your ceremony more involved than you really want it to be. After all, that part is not about your attendants but you and your Fiance finally saying ‘I do!’
Post # 4
we are still in the process of crafting the ceremony, but will likely keep it simple and somewhat short (more time to enjoy the reception), so not much for our wedding party to do during the ceremony (other than hold rings/bouquets/fluff dresses/be supportive). however, they’ve been really fabulous and supportive on the path to the altar and we’ll definitely be thanking them at the reception (and the rehearsal dinner and at any other point possible).
for ways to honor/involve your party during the ceremony, perhaps you could ask them to do a brief reading (either one they write or one they have found, which would let your non-writers off the hook) or to include some recognition/extra blessing as part of the ceremony? For the latter, some ceremonies have openings that talk about the community coming together and supporting the couple and asking for some sort of pledge of support and/or blessing. You could do this with the members of the wedding party – calling them out as a special group, as they are standing up for you on your wedding day, pledging to do so after. That way, you honor them specifically for being there and standing up for you, but don’t add additional pressure of something to do. Does that make sense?
Post # 5
what kind of ceremony are you having? if its short it may not be a big deal if they are just standing there.
We are having a wedding mass. I was thinking about having the maids connect the aisle by holding hands during the "Our Father".
Post # 6
Missm is right too By The Way.
The maids will be socializing with your guests during the whole day, not to mention the Maid/Matron of Honor toast.