(Closed) How to get FI to pick our honeymoon?***VENT***

posted 7 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d be totally frustrated too!

Maybe you could narrow it down for him. Get the facts on the two places you most want to go and then get him to choose out of the two. If he STILL won’t choose, maybe make it into a game. Would you rather go skiing or snorkeling? Would you prefer better scenery or better food? And then tally it up and see what you come up with.

I think that even though this is his only wedding related job, you should maybe take over the initial decisions to get him started unless you want to spend a week at home. Men can be so frustrating sometimes:(

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

ya, i would just book it myself and run it by him first if that is how he is being.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

maybe he’s got everything planned and just wants to surprise you. I’ve had a couple of my friends’ hubbys pull this on them. (:

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why is this his job alone?  Are you just trying to be “traditional” or are you really looking to be surprised, or you just don’t have time to worry about it?

We planned ours together.  I think it would be really hard to come up with a vacation for two people all on my own.  Especially if you’re in a situation where you don’t go on vacations every year, or more often.  It kind of feels like a now or never kind of thing, so you’d want to get it perfect.

I’d go over with him again whether you want to do beach, city, skiing, and narrow it down a bit.  I’m sure he just really wants you to be happy, and is feeling a bit paralyzed by all the options.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe he’s trying to make Hawaii work, but doesn’t want to get your hopes up until he gets a bit closer?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s frustrating.  Maybe it would help to ask him to decide small details one at a time and give him a deadline, reminding him that the time is coming soon.  Maybe say, okay, what length of time do you want to spend on the honeymoon and let him hash that out mostly.  Then follow up with “it’s good to get plane tickets as fuel prices are about to go up, should we fly or drive somewhere?”.  It might be that the whole process is overwhelming.  Though I like the idea that he’s trying to surprise you with something.  Guys can be a lot more romantic than us girls!

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