(Closed) How to get husband to go to a urologist? (TMI warning)

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

It’s your future too! You should know. And what if there’s some other problem? I don’t think you’re being too pushy.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have always figured that when SO and I want to start TTC we would both go to the doctor and get completely checked out so we know that there aren’t any problems. Perhaps if you make it into something BOTH of you are doing it won’t be so scary for him. As in ‘we need to go to the doctor’ instead of ‘you need to go to the doctor’. Or you could try to sit him down and get him to tell you why going to the doctor scares him. Did he have a bad past experience? If you know why he doesn’t want to go it may be easier to convince him to go.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I understand where you are coming from but a lot of men are like this. By pushing him you’re going to make him more and more nervous about TTC. I would give it a month, maybe two of trying and if you don’t get pregnant then press the issue. When it comes the time suggest that you BOTH go but that he go first because it’s much less intrusive for a man. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Jamergurl921:  If you can’t tell you wife embarassing things who can you tell? SO and I are pretty dang comfortable with each other. He has a lying problem that he has finally admitted to and has been working on coming clean to me about any lies he’s told me since the begining of our relationship (over 6 years ago). Some of the truths are pretty embarassing but he tells me anyways because he’s made a comitment to be honest with me. If your husband wants to make the comitment of trying to have a child with you he needs to go to the doctor. It’s hard to remember, but doctors see it all on a daily basis and they most likely won’t find whatever his problem is uncomfortable or embarassing.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@Jamergurl921:  If I were you, I would let it go…. Unless there is a known issue like, a varicocele or something, you may have trouble even having one to see you. Usually doctors don’t even refer people for things like that unless couple have been trying for 6-12 months.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ChuckNorris:  +1 Agreed. Absolutely let it go.

It sounds like your Dh is pretty sensitive about his current bedroom issue, so anything related to how it functions is a touchy subject. Yes, men typically raise a stink about going to the doctor. So far, it sounds like his only issue is ED related. Try TTCing without getting checked for a bit. Maybe your Dh and you can then agree on a timeline – if you’re not pregnant say, 6 months later, get checked out. Make sure you mention you also will get checked, so he doesn’t feel like if there’s an issue, it must be him. But going into it with the mindset that you’d rather know if there’s an issue a head of time sure takes the emotion out of TTCing. This makes it sound like more of a transaction. I say just enjoy eachother, relax, and if an issue presents itself, agree to deal with it at the time.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

they won’t work him up for fertility issues if you guys haven’t started trying yet. Gold standard is 12 months of TTC. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

My doctor won’t run any tests until we had been trying for a year

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