Post # 1
Earlier this year we were blessed enough to have more cash on hand that we planned for in relation to our wedding. This took the burden off of us and allowed us to plan for a larger, ‘better’ wedding than we had originally hoped for. I will say that we are not debt free, but have made great strides towards that in the last year. Enough that we felt comfortable having our ‘dream’ wedding, incurring no other debts, and at the same time sticking to our paydown plan.
Yesterday, a notice went out to my company that ‘business is not as usual’ – and that in three weeks some of us will lose our jobs. While I have good reason to think I’m not on the chopping block, it’s a scary thing to consider. I am a new employee (9 months) and prior to that, I was out of work for 10 months after being laid off at the beginning of the recession from long term employment.
Both of us work in industries that are still being hit hard by the down economy. Even if I do not lose my job (and he does not lose his) I felt like that email was a bit of a wake up call, a “what if?” and it reminded me that I am not untouchable.
We are 5 months out right now from our planned wedding date. I’ve delayed sending out STD’s out for another reason entirely; however, it may be good news that they are still on our countertop! What I am considering is drastically reducing our guest list – only family and those people already in the wedding party. Our list would drop from 120 down to about 50. Our only two vendors that we have contracts with would still be used (our vendor and our officiant) so no money loss there.
Has anyone else done this? Or scrapped an already planned wedding for a destination wedding? What issues did this cause, how did you handle it, did you regret your choice?
Post # 3
I would go ahead and do it if you won’t regret not having those guests. Overall, I think that it’s great if people have smaller weddings and keeping more money in savings in case of emergencies or for fun stuff later!
Post # 4
Leaving off a few invites would be a good safety net, probably.
Post # 5
I would cut the guestlist. It’s better to have that money in savings and have peace of mind than be scrambling for money. Better to start the marriage off on a good foot. I love smaller weddings the intimacy of it is so romantic to me. My guest list with only family and close friends is about 200. I REALLY only want a 100 person guest list but can’t imagine not having my closest family there.
Post # 6
Not done the same thing – initially kept list small (& now feeling the flack from some offended family members) due to staying within budget. I think what you’re planning is the smart thing to do…in the now, in the long run, & rather patriotic in a way. Power to you, sister!
Post # 7
I had 60 at our wedding and the atmosphere was amazing! 🙂 Just remember, if you invite 50 and you have any declines, your number could be around 40 or so. Perhaps invite at least 60? Depends on what you want as your absolute minimum guest count.
I think it’s a smart idea!!
Edit: I forgot to say that we invited 62, hoping for 50-55 and only had one couple say no and they are out of state so we knew they wouldn’t come. Basically, everybody came. But I wanted to invite at least 60 in case 10 or so didn’t come because I didn’t want less than 50 people. Usually you have at least a few “no’s”!
Post # 8
When in doubt don’t send out STD’s. Send them out to immediate family and friends that would be there no matter what.
We got caught kinda when we had to change our venue and our guest list had to be cut. It was hard because so many people had received Save-The-Date Cards.
At least if you don’t send them a STD it gives you a chance to wait and see what happens at work and where you are in a couple months when you have to do invitations
Post # 9
Wow. thanks for the feedback! Can I explain some specifics for more feedback??
Switching to a smaller guest list – I’m not opposed to 60 or so, but right now we have a 125 adults only formal event planned. Changing this would potentially save us a few thousand dollars, I’d say anywhere from $1,500 – $2,000. Catering is under contract because it was part of my negotiations with the venue. Total catering numbers are not set in stone, just 50 or more.
Going smaller might allow us to have this be more of a ceremony + dinner. Dinner then would allow for children to attend, which right now, we are doing adults only. We have had some comments about that – specifically to me from family – that make me question my decisions to be anti-kid.
I ALWAYS wanted a smaller wedding – the big guest list came from his family being large and his side of the family… not mine. I’m willing to cut a LOT off of mine too, and do this smaller style, less of a party wedding.
Our venue also had a built in sound system (I’ve heard it and it sounds awesome!) so theoretically, we could have no DJ, still play music and then dance and have a ball, just with a smaller group.The logistics aren’t great and the flow of the event might not be spot on, but I think I could come to terms with that. (I’m far from Type A)
So? Go for it? Questions?
Post # 10
Go for it. Also consider other things that are on a per person basis.
save the dates, invitations, favors, centerpieces, linens, cake,
Post # 11
HA! Too bad everything on that front is done save the invites and cake! 🙂 I was prepared!
Post # 12
I say go for it since you already want a smaller wedding. I’m hoping that we end up with a small guest list (maybe people will have plans for the holiday weekend).
I wanted a really small wedding – my whole family is 15 people so I wanted to invite all of them because we’re close. But my Fiance though since I was inviting all my aunts and uncles (there are 4 of them total) we had to invite all of his (30 for him) – so our list got HUGE.