How to get over the fear of living away from mom?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

nothing to do but get it over with.

i never spent more than 2 days apart from my parents until i went to europe for a month. in highschool i even had my parents chaperone all my trips for choir.

keep yourself busy and do fun activities…. don’t let yourself dwell on your homesickness or you will depress yourself.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Can’t answer this… I tried my hardest to get out of there as soon as I could.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t say I have been through that – I have been living on my own since I went to college.  I love my parents dearly, but actually returning home for extended periods of time now is what causes me stress and anxiety! haha.  I don’t think I really have much advice but you could really enjoy the space.  How far away will you be from you parents?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree to try to keep yourself busy. How far will you be moving? My family and I are very close and I’ve lived at home forever.. but I’ll be moving 1,300 miles away after the wedding. If I keep myself busy, though, and try to thnk about all of the positives (I’ll FINALLY be with my Fiance.. starting our new lives together), it makes it easier πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Cady:  Me too!  Raced out of there to get to college, and moved in with my now-husband on my graduation day.

Are you going to be moving far from your mom?  Or will you still be able to visit when you’d like to?  I have to agree with PP that there’s not much more to do than get over it, keep yourself busy, enjoy playing house with your husband πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I couldn’t get away from my parents fast enough.  I moved out when I left for college & never looked back.  I even lived by myself, alone, in an apartment for 2 years.  Honestly, I am so thankful for that experience because it made me more independent & responsible.  I feel like I can be a better partner becuase I am more scure with myself.

I’d say it will just take some time adjusting.  Be open & honest with your Fiance so he doesn’t get blindsided by your feelings and end up thinking he is inadequate.  Work on this together, and be proactive instead of reactive. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Aw you’re just moving away in the same city? At least that’s not too far! You can drive over to your parents’ house anytime right?

When I graduated from college I got a (GREAT) job offer in Texas. I had to leave my family and all my friends in Seattle to move down here for work, because I was nervous with the job market that there wouldn’t be any other opportunities. I miss my mama tons and tons… I see her about every 3-4 months and we Skype every Sunday night, but it’s not the  same. I totally feel you.

Does your mom know how to text? That might help!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Try not to worry about it, cause it’s happening either way. Try not to think about what you are giving up, but what you are gaining–the man you love and a new life with him! It’s natural to be nervous, but don’t let it consume you

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I remember when I moved to college I was soooooo scared of leaving home! I thought I was going to be sad and lonely all the time, and that I would hate it. But I LOVED it! I am telling you that you are going to LOVE your sense of freedom and being able to do whatever you want, whenever you want, your way! Once you leave you will never want to go back hahaha. And since you will be in the same city you will be able to visit however often you want…you will be fine!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My mom and I have been best friends my whole life, and moving away for the first time was really hard. Since you’ll still be living in the same city, it will be a much easier adjustment! Get together anytime you can.

The first time I moved away was from Pennsylvania to Virginia, and I wouldn’t get homesick until it got closer to the holidays. I couldn’t wait to move to Florida to work for Disney, but ended up getting extremely homesick there too. I think it was because I was so overworked and barely got a chance to talk to her.

I moved back home for a while, but then moved out again, but this time I only moved 20 minutes from her, and it’s great. Sometimes I stay over with her if I don’t feel like being alone in my apartment, and we work out at the gym together, and it’s just nice because now that I’m older, we have a great friendship without the fear of getting grounded! haha

I’m sure it’ll be fine. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was dying to move out when it was time to go to college.  I actually wanted to apply to college a year early but my mom was not supportive of the idea.  My parents are nice people and they were good parents, but I found (and still find) them very stifling.  I can’t relate to the concept of being scared to move out at ALL.  You have so much more independence when you are on your own!  It’s a great feeling.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wish I had a mom I could stand to be around πŸ™‚

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