Post # 1
I feel bad writing this – I’m 11 days out from the wedding, and I just feel so blah about it. I love my FH, I’m so happy that we’re going to be married, but I feel like every word out of my mouth is just so negative, and all I can think is “I can’t wait until this is over!!” A very sweet co-worker put a cute count down thing on my desk, and it didn’t make me happy or giddy or anything – I was just annoyed. I keep worrying that once I’m in my dress, something bad will happen like a bird will poo on me or I’ll break my heel or somehow I’ll gain 20 lbs between now and the wedding and I won’t be able to zip my dress. I’m worried about being the center of attention, about being super red-faced in pictures (I turn red when I’m nervous – all over my chest – maybe I should have gotten a turtleneck dress?), and all kinds of other stuff, and I think the worry is just causing me to have a bad attitude about it all.
I want to enjoy my wedding – how do I snap out of this??
Post # 3
I think it is just nerves. I try to think about being married to my wonderful FH and the great honeymoon we are taking when I began to get stressed. Also, some people who are already married told us that it would get like that sometimes but it will all be worth it on our wedding day.
Post # 4
Breathe. I kind of got the same way a few weeks out. I couldn’t wait to just be done. Once I got a few days out I calmed down because really there was nothing I could do if something went wrong and that even if it did I’d still be just as married the day after. My wedding ended up being awesome because I wasn’t worrying about every little thing and I could just enjoy it.
The same is true for you.
Stressing about it isn’t going to stop a bird from pooping on you (although it’s good luck in Italy), being anxious about being red is only going to make you red. Maybe do something to calm your nerves like getting a massage or spending some quiet time alone.
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best, pack your safety pins, spanx and pair of extra heels and then…let it go.
Post # 5
I was totally stressed out and wanting it to just be over with – until last Saturday. One week out and I got SO excited! I didn’t expect it to happen, but I think the week before, everything takes on a whole new meaning. Now I’m really looking forward to the day, instead of just wanting it to be over and be on my honeymoon.
I think you’ll “snap out of it” soon. Just enjoy the ride!
Post # 6
Sounds like you’re stressed. Maybe you need a pre-wedding spa treatment.
Post # 7
Drink a lot of wine. I’m kidding (mostly). I was not into planning our wedding at all. I didn’t love the process, I was stressed a lot and just generally over it from the beginning. But I LOVED our wedding day. LOVED, LOVED, LOVED it.
When the day comes you won’t be able to help yourself. You can’t be surrounded by that much love and feel bad. Really, even if a bird does poo on you.
Just trust that when you are there, in the moment, it’s going to be totally awesome. Until then, just breathe.
Post # 8
No worries I feel the same way. I am not excited, I just want the day to be over with. I feel with all the planning I have been doing it has all finally caught up with me. I hate it when people ask how wedding planning is going. I am so over it. I just try to think of how great everything is going to be after the “big day” and of course the day will go fast because you have it all planned out. So do not worry it will be here and over before we know it!….and you and your hubby will be back to your “normal” life. best wishes to you!
Post # 9
Awww, thanks guys! I’m feeling better today – I realized on top of the stress I was PMSing too, which never helps things (and I don’t normally get PMS because of my BC pills, so it kind of blindsided me and I didn’t really realize what was happening). Anyway, I had a good cry the other night and that helped a lot. And, FH Is dealing with the brunt of our guestlist issues, so that’s helping.
Anyway, thanks again!