- 6 years ago
My ex broke up with me about three months ago. We were NC for one month, then we spoke again for another month, but I found it too difficult, and now we’ve been NC for about another month.
The break up was quite painful for me. He told me out of the blue that he no longer cared about me, and that was that.
We had a great relationship in some ways. We were really compatible, and we always got along great. But he was always emotionally distant. I often felt rejected and unloved.
I’ve moved on mainly now, in that I no longer feel the devastating emotions that I did at first. I get along with my life as normal. But now there is just this lingering feeling of resentment and anger at the hurt he caused me. I’m worried that I’ve only moved on to where I am because I’ve forgotten, rather than truly moved on. On top of that, I’m very lonely – I’ve just finished university, and I don’t have any friends at home, and I don’t have a job yet.
I feel like I’m stuck in a bit of a rut. I’m no longer pining for him, but whereas other people seem to feel uplifted in some way after a break up, I know that I’m overall in a sadder place than I was. He left a whole in my life, and there’s nothing to fill it. And I can’t stop thinking of him at least several times a day.
How have other people coped with these last stages of getting over an ex?