(Closed) How to give fiance his own special moment?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you cutting a cake? Let him pick the cake song.

Let him surprise his mother with the song he wants to do he father daughter dance (assuming they are doing one)

Or maybe if you are willing, let him design the cake and surprise you (my Darling Husband did that)

Post # 4
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m in the exact same boat.  He loves planning everything with me and has come up with some fantastic ideas on his own.  But God love him, he will always ask questions like “oh I don’t get to walk down the isle?” and “I don’t get a shower?”  It really has me thinking about how much it really is the “brides” day.  I would love for him to have something too… I just don’t know what.  I also noticed your from Gainesville… Jacksonville is my hometown and I always miss it ๐Ÿ™‚  Anyway I’m gonna keep checking back on this to see if anyone else comes up with any neat suggestions ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can let him,

1. pick the cake topper

2. pick the wedding colors together (compromise) 

3. pick the wedding menu together

4. make sure that you both like the venue

5. pick the invitations together

6. maybe he can write his own vows

There are many things that a groom can do to be involved in the wedding planning process/ wedding day events. He can even do a special speech or a special dance if he likes. 

Post # 6
17 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

BJ after the party is over.  Done.

Post # 7
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Some of the pp’s suggestions of picking the cake song, etc sound good.  Another idea would be if you let him design a groom’s cake that represents him that you won’t see until the reception.

Post # 8
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Darling Husband sang a song… pretty spur of the moment he just went up to our DJ and the DJ let him and his groomsmen sing a song with the mic’s. Then my son did one too lol.


Post # 9
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not sure exactly what your fiance could do that would be a surprise (other than his speech). Perhaps he could pick the music that is played after the ceremony – the first song you hear as husband and wife. Or maybe he could surprise you with the flavour of the cake. Failing that, he might be able to do or say something during the ceremony?


Post # 10
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LadyElva:  I was thinking the toast/speech also and maybe the bride/groom gift.  Maybe he can present it to you during the reception if it’s appropriate ๐Ÿ™‚

Shoot…this is hard…because then those kind of turn in to suprises for you…is that still what you’re looking for?

Post # 12
3117 posts
Sugar bee

Tell him he will get all his ‘surprises’ on your honeymoon. Hehehehe

Nah, good suggestions from everyone else.

Post # 13
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Just to be clear that I am understanding what you are looking for, you want him to plan a surprise for the two of you? Or you want to plan a surprise that is all about him and making him feel special?

Post # 14
1715 posts
Bumble bee

Who says he doesnt get to walk down the asile or have a shower?

Let him have that if he wants to. Let him plan it all out, or like, plan it out with his mother or sisters and surprise him.

Post # 15
78 posts
Worker bee

My friend’s husband designed (with the florist) the bouquet and surprised his bride. It was amazingly perfect to be there in the bridal suite when his mother came in with those flowers. I am tearing up right now!

Post # 16
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@dmourati:  LOL.. fixes everything!


OP, why not get your man a groom’s cake?  I’m having a groom’s cake made of his favorite tire/rim combination (he’s a car guy).  He’s gonna love it

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