Post # 1
My grandmother who Im not very close to (my parents seperated before i was born and i went with the other side of the family) is telling me that having one is important (i realize this) and its time to start thinking about it. The problem is that my mom is mentally handicapped, my moh has a crazy busy life, and is also a lesbian so doesnt know how to really go about one, I don’t have sisters, and all of my cousins live in another state. I’m not very close to my fiances sisters, as they all have kids/careers and crazy lives theyre struggling with too. I feel embarrassed that there isn’t someone to “throw” one for me. I have one aunt that lives down here by me, and I’m thinking of asking her to host one with me (for me) at my house, and have it catered so it appears that I have someone that loves me enough to throw one for me. this isnt a pity party, I just dont want my fiances family to wonder why I don’t have any family that cares enough, as they come from a really solid family.
Post # 3
Any friends who would fit the bill? A shower is not a family-only party, nor is it something you plan. Whomever decides to host it will ask you for a guest list, which is the only thing you contrivbute to.
Post # 4
Honestly I’d just wait it out and see if someone from your FI’s side will offer to throw you one. This isn’t technically supposed to be something you plan and organize (and host) yourself.
Post # 5
@punkin83: that’s so sad! you shouldn’t have to throw your own shower! Don’t pay a caterer yourself, showers don’t have to be expensive–have a potluck-that way everyone who goes is contributing
Post # 6
Honestly I think you’re still aways out from your wedding, I would wait and see if your Maid/Matron of Honor comes through and wants to host one (she didn’t say she wasn’t going to right? you just assumed since she’s busy?) or if someone else wants to throw one for you.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Why would your FI’s family make such an assumption?
Post # 8
I’m in a similar situation. I live in a different country than my family who I’m not very close to anyways and all of my friends are there as well. My FI’s family is throwing me a shower but I know I won’t have a bachelorette party or a shower with my family.
Its hard to mourn the idea of what you thought your wedding was going to be like. Im really jealous of my friends who have supportive, close knit families. It sounds harsh, but you just kind of have to suck it up and deal with whatever comes your way. It’s not supposed to be about the parties, right?
Post # 9
I’d let it play out without worrying. SOMEONE will get around to it, but it certainly shouldn’t be you, BRIDEZILLA! : ) I think (and HOPE) a friend will come through.