(Closed) How to go about this??

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Candace From BC:

Have they ever offered to pay? Unless you guys have already had that discussion, i find it a little rude to sit them down and ask them to chip in. They should definitely offer.

If they have already offered, let them know your plans, and the budget, and see what they say.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

If they have offered, just say, “Hey, guys, I know you offered to help with the wedding.  When is a good time to talk about it?”  I think that would not be pushy or sound bad.

Post # 6
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Candace From BC:

Ohh ok.

Well I would probably have a sit down with them about budget before flying anywhere. Just so you don’t make a trip for nothing, if you can’t afford it.

Take them for dinner, or have them over for coffee, with your fiance, and all have a meeting on a budget.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d still be cautious with planning based on what they say they will contribute until you actually have money in hand.  There’s been too many stories from bees here that say xxx has been promised yet nothing has come of it.

Post # 10
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We just told my parents and FI’s parents how much it is and they write us checks. Easy as that.

Post # 11
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is how things went for me: My Fiance and I figured out a budget that we could afford on our own. Then after talking about my budget with my Mom, she and my Dad offered to pay for the catering, my dress and accessories. My Mom came and met the caterer with us and wrote the deposit check and signed the contact right there. I found my dress and veil off Craigslist and she mailed me a check.  With the Fiance parents’, we were eating dinner with them and I brought up the wedding budget. The Fiance parents are Swiss and don’t know a lot about American wedding traditions. I told them about how the groom’s parents usually pay for the rehearsal dinner. They said they were ok with that as long as it was X amount at X restaurant.   Since that talk they have offered to pay for a few more things. We are having the wedding in our pasture so no cost for the venue. The Fiance and I have put the deposit down for the photographer and DJ ourselves. Hope that helps.

Post # 12
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Now my best friend had a horrible time. Her parents said X amount, then changed the amount 3 to 4 times. Then when she decided on a cheaper venue they then said they wanted to pay a smaller amount. She finally got them to agree with the original amount when she took them to the venue she wanted. They wrote the check on the spot.

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