(Closed) How to handle a former friend who won't leave me alone?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

caligirl3:  She’s nuts. Block her from your email and continue to ignore her.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Go to the police and tell them everything.  File a report.  Let her know that you have reported everything and Will file a restraining order. She is mentally sick and could get dangerous in the future. Don’t respond to anything else she tells you//sends you in the future. Do not get emotional about anything she does. It will take time and strength but she has to know that whatever she does you do not care about . Block her on everything. Good luck.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would take both emails and any proof of further contact and ask the police for a temporary restraining order. She has to know that harassing you is not acceptable.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

To follow up, what is most concerning is its escalating. She clearly won’t stop until she gets a reaction, which is why you should get the authorities involved now rather than later.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Report it to your local police department and keep a record of all her threats and communication. They may not be able to do anything about the situation right now, but having a record of her threats will be helpful. As for what to do, ask the police how you should handle her. I imagine that they’d tell you not to respond to her at this time.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Yeah, you need to document this stuff. You might not have enough for a TRO now, but keep a record of every time that she makes contact, and do not ever respond to her. Unfortunately, it sounds like she has become quite unhinged. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

if shes threatening you then go to the police, keep the message and have the police record a record of the harasment they may tell her to cease all contact and if she breaks that then the police can intervene and get a restraining order etc…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Go to the police!!!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

Do you know if she’s contacted any of your mutual friends like this? Has anyone else said anything about her weird behaviour? You don’t have to speak ill about her to anyone, but definitely bring it up to them. Maybe they’ve started seeing signs, too.

Do you have any way to contact anyone in her family and let them know they might need to be concerned about her? If she’s had drugs problems in the past, maybe they’ve gotten worse and they can do something to help her. I’m sure they know about it, but they might not know about this kind of behaviour which is very alarming.

If she’s sending threats, save everything and I agree with others – I don’t think it’s a bad idea to put it on record with the police. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It might be a bit extreme but once she starts threatening you and your fmaily you need to document and get a restraining order.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

caligirl3:  definitely file a police report. She is harassing and threatening you 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I think it might be time for a restraining order. You don’t want to get involved with her and her attempts at sabotaging your relationships with SO and family.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Restraining order as she is threatening yiur family.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think that you should definitely consider getting the police involved. I’m sorry, she sounds like a terrible person.

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