- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Apparently, his sister didn’t say ‘oh, she embarrassed herself.’ She just mentioned to him about the tag on my dress but there were other things she talked to him about that day as well not just me. It was my husband who said it to me to my face but his choice of words painted out his sister to be the bad guy.
I told him not to relay the conversations that he has with his sister in private to me. We fought for hours over this. He said he has to walk on eggshells around me and that I’m controlling. He said the comments about the tag were nothing bad and that they were trying to help me. He said he’d be really embarrassed if his tag was sticking out etc. etc.
Wow. You’re controlling because you don’t want him to relay the unkind things she says about you?! You have a husband problem, bee.
omg your husband sounds like a pain in the ass. Why does he feel the need to tell you about your appearance, about what his sister is saying about you on the phone, or that you are controlling? He just doesn’t want to take responsibility for misspeaking and saying something inconsiderate to you (childish). You fought for hours? Jesus. I would be so pissed if my fi pulled shit like that. I also try to refrain from mentioning much anything negative about his sis even if she is being a pain in the ass beacuse, well, he knows. And she ain’t gonna change.
I would just be kind, but direct with her, ‘i didnt ask your fashion advice’, ‘I dont really care what people think of me’. ‘I dont need to dress nice for strangers’. Whatever you need to say so she will cut the shit or at least cut down on the shit.
And I agree with other ppl that your husband needs to cut that shit with her on the phone, change the subject tell her Im not discussing. It sounds like he’s using what shes saying as fire to validate his opinion of your attire though which I take issue with.
My honey doesnt always have the greatest sense of style. He wouldnt part with a white tee shirt that he used for painting getting dirty and mowing the lawn in that was now literally gray. Im like ‘baby can you please toss this, its embarrassing, you have other shirts you can wear’ and he was like ‘but I need it for painting’ so I rolled my eyes and sure enough he came back down 5 minutes later and was like ‘you can toss it, I have others that were buried, you were right’.
It sounds like you hubby has a problem with being direct and kind with you, ‘wife, I know you got that as a gift, but you have nicer bags’. Or whatever.
Your sister in law is annoying but your husbands behavior would be unacceptable to me.
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