- 6 years ago
Every year my family has a reunion. Last year we also did a Christmas gathering, and that’s when the questions started. My cousin who is the same age as me is getting married in August. I’m incredibly happy for them! I just got my invitation and am super excited to come celebrate with them!
My only issue now is that people in my family are starting to ask me when I’m going to get married (*queue the eyerolls!!*)
My other cousin (the sister to the cousin who’s wedding is in August) got married the year before. So now both of their kids are married so they turned the conversation towards my love life.
I felt bombarded, literally with questions about my personal life. “Are you seeing someone?”, “How long have you two been going out?”, “You’re the last one single, when are you getting married?” While I understand they probably just want to know what is going on in my life, I did find it quite hurtful.
I’ve been through a lot with relationships in the past few years. I’ve had a couple unsuccessful relationships, and the past 5 years or so have been quite stressful for me. I was with a guy for just over a year who was verbally abusive and I had a lot of drama in that relationship. This past year I have just started over and have been trying to live my life as positive as I can.
So when I was being asked these questions, it definitely hurt. My cousin’s fiancee basically told me that it’s not hard to meet someone if you really try. I found these comments most hurtful. She basically said that I should try online dating (I have been online on and off for several years between relationships) and that it’s not that hard once you meet someone. I’ve literally met tons of people online, and was definitely trying!
It just hurt me a lot because they were basically acting like I should just hurry up and do it already, as if it’s a choice. So my response was less than friendly. I basically told them that not everyone is so lucky, but that maybe someday I will hopefully meet someone.
Safe to say it pretty much ruined my time there.
How do you bee’s deal with this kind of questioning? I’m looking forward to attending the wedding, I want to be there to support my cousin when he gets married. But I know that I’m going to be facing these questions again.
Also, I don’t want to make it awkward for my date. I’ve been seeing a guy for almost a year and he’s coming as my date. I’m very happy in this relationship, but I don’t want him getting scared off by people asking him when we are going to get married. We haven’t talked about marriage yet, I don’t want to force the issue. I’m more than happy to be in a loving, happy relationship for once!
- This topic was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by sarabee.