- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
When we got engaged, my fiance’s stepsister offered to do my hair and makeup for the wedding for free. I thought it was a very generous offer, and thanked her and accepted. I really don’t know her well, so I also thought it would be an opportunity to get to know her better.
The whole process of planning things regarding the styling and trials has been very difficult. She lives an hour away, so for us it does require a little bit of planning ahead of time for us to make the 2 hour round trip. I generally text or FB message her because she told me she doesn’t like talking on the phone. However, she has been saying her phone is broken, which is apparently why most of the time when I have tried to get ahold of her she never responds. However, I don’t know how much I believe her, because whenever I see her, she seems to text a lot. Also, that wouldn’t explain why she hasn’t responded to FB messages.
We did do a hair trial a few months ago. I thought she did a great job and again, I think her offer was so sweet. H. My next month is insane with papers, finals, graduating from college, friends visiting, and yeah, wedding planning. I also have some health problems (including panic attacks and severe anxiety- this is so not helping), so I have tons of doctors appointments. It would help me a lot to know when we are scheduling something, and give me a lot of peace of mind.
This whole thing has gotten so complicated over something small. We tried getting in touch with her mom, my FI’s stepmom. My Fiance sent her a text saying, “We have been trying to get in touch with Julie. Could you let her know?” His stepmom responded, basically saying, “She just told me she called both of you and neither of you answered, so obviously you are lying.” Yeah, neither of us got a call. I wish I did, because it would have been a weight off my shoulders. I sent her a friendly long text explaining things and saying how much it would help me out to get something scheduled sometime soon on last Sunday: no response. I called her and left a voicemail 2 days ago: nothing (yet)…
This situation is really hard for me to deal with because it is my FI’s family, not mine, so I don’t feel comfortable just being upfront about it. (Especially given his stepmom’s reaction.) But at this point, I am just done with this stress. Maybe someone else can handle it, but with everything else, I just need to simplify things for my own mental well being. I talked to my therapist about it, and she suggested that I thank his stepsister sincerely for her help, and tell her that my mom just offered to pay for my hair and makeup, and since she is my mom, I can’t refuse.
Any thoughts? Would this be the right thing to do, or do you have another suggestion?