(Closed) How to handle guests attire?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

Maybe tell them country club dress code? Did you specify on the invitations the dress code?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would maybe include a little insert with the invitation with the dress code.  I got one like that for a very fancy wedding once

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’re getting married in less than a month, I assume the invites already went out?  You probably should have included “Formal Attire Required” on the invite.  At this point, you need to contact people to make sure they know, as probably some will assume it’s more casual (I probably would, unless I specifically knew the venue).

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

@crose424: Thank you:) It was the 1st thing that popped in my mind. Do you have time to send out a letter of some sort explaining this? Or email?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I personally have no idea what country club attire is. You play golf at a country club, right? I don’t think you want people showing up in polo shirts, so I’d be careful to use that phrasing. Honestly, at this point, I think its too late. I think “semi-formal attire requested” would have been okay on the invitations, but I’d honestly be annoyed if I got a letter or an email telling me how to dress after the fact. If anything, I’d spread the news through word of mouth to those you think might be inclined to wear jeans (although, I assume that would be few people since most people know how to dress for a wedding, beach or not). 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@Krises:

agreed.

Op: I think you dropped the ball on when you could of specified and now I think you can’t really get away with it. 

Fingers crossed that everyone will gussy themselves up for you and your FH 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Country club attire is no jeans and no flip flops. I would have put something on the invite, but you can still put dress info on your website and ask some friends/ fam to help spread the dress code by word of mouth. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

If your invitations were not already sent, I would recommend simply putting “Dress Code” or “Semi-formal Dress” in the lower right corner. So doing does violate the standards of old-fashioned etiquette, but even Royal wedding invitations have bowed to the necessity since the 1950’s.

Since your invitations are already out, you can probably just assume that your sophisticated guests will know how to dress for a wedding, and the parvenues will ask — which seems to be what is happening. Anyone who does get turned away for wearing jeans or flip-flops to a wedding, really has earned their discomfiture themselves. If it happens, let them know you’ll keep a plate warm for them while they go home and change.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

In general, just assume that most people do not have common sense.  Even though it may feel weird I would just tell people what the dress code is.  I really did not want kids at my wedding but my Fiance insisted so I caved and let his aunt bring her 10 year old.  The kid was wearing jeans and a sweatshirt.  My wedding was at a country club that obviously required formal attire.  GRRR

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At this point, since invites have already been sent, you have to either bite the bullet and let people come how they will, or start making phone calls! Good luck!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

If I were you I would make phone calls to everyone, letting them know that you forgot to specify the attire requirements on the invites and you wanted to make sure that they wouldn’t have any problems at the venue.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Get your bridesmaids and groomsmen to spread the word to anyone that asks, or maybe doesn’t ask, and the same for your parents.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ignore, guests can wear what they want, especially to the beach.

 

 

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