Post # 1
Hey Bees –
I have all of my invites sealed and ready to go. When I made my initial invite list back in November i had about 3 or 4 co workers that I wanted to invite. Now, all 4 of those co workers are gone. I work at a small business where the turnover is very high. Out of the 4 invites that I have sealed for NEW co workers, 2 are already gone.
I normally wouldn’t be concerned about this because I still keep in touch with some. However, I have to invite the owner of the company. Since we are such a small business we see each other everyday and talk. I can not not invite him.
I’m afraid to send the invites out to them too early because by the time the wedding rolls around, what if it’s my boss and 3 old workers? How awkard would that be?
Bees, how would you handle this situation? I was going to wait maybe 6 weeks instead of 8 to send them out. I know it’s only 2 weeks, but 2 weeks is a substantial amount of time considering the type of business I’m in.
Any feedback would be great. Thanks!
Post # 3
I don’t see any problem with waiting if that is how you feel. And are you jsut inviting them because you worked with them or were you friends with them? If you were on a social level with them then I would say invite them regardless of their employment status.
Post # 4
I would never invite coworkers if I would not want them there if we no longer worked together. We’re inviting some former coworkers on my FI’s side, but that’s it. He felt like you that we needed to invite his current boss (of one year), but I disagree, and felt that there was no obligation to do so if he didn’t want to. I know you say you can’t not invite him, but…I respectfully disagree. We don’t want a huge wedding and we are paying for a lot of it ourselves so eliminating “obligatory but unwanted guests” was an easy way to cut down the guest list.
In any event, I see no issue with 3 former coworkers + boss (unless they were fired for something like child pornography, in which case, rethink the invite). They should make nice at your wedding or if they can’t do that, avoid each other or not come. If you think it will be awkward, definitely do not put them at the same table.
Post # 5
wow thank you ladies..you both gave great advice. I think I will discuss this with Fiance and rethink a few things..
Post # 6
@MlleBrielle: I would just invite any coworker (past or present) that you socialize with outside of work.
I would not feel obligated to invite your boss…I know you said he is the company owner and you talk to him every day, but still… I’m not inviting my boss who I have worked for for 6 years and we talk most days. I think she is a good boss, but I don’t like her personally, and I have no problem inviting other coworkers and not her. Granted she is not the owner of my company or anything.
Post # 7
If you still talk to the old coworkers who are not there, go ahead and invite them. If you would consider yourself friends with the new coworkers, and would still talk to them after they leave, then invite them. Otherwise I wouldn’t include them.
Post # 8
I had this happen to me too. I gave a save the date to two girls — because I planned to invite my entire “team” (8 people). Two have since left and we don’t have any contact with each other. Maybe it’s bad, but I didn’t send them an invite.
If we’d stayed friends afterwards that’d be different, but since I literally haven’t spoken to either since the day they left, I figure they can’t be mad at me.
A new girl just started a few weeks before invites went out. I didn’t know what to do. But since I’d invited the entire team I felt bad leaving her out, so I invited her.
I think it just depends on what you want to do. Since your wedding is still kinda far out…I’d maybe hold onto your coworker invites and see what happens before inviting new people.
Post # 9
I am in a similar situation and I don’t know what to do. I work with 8 other employees and we will have another attorney joining the firm in 2 weeks. I have worked at this firm for over a year and I see these people more than my Fiance. We have a very high turnover rate and that is my worry. I really just want to just invite those that I see outside of work like suggested which are 2 other girls. I feel obligated to invite everyone since we are such a small firm though. I’m going to have to invite this new atty and his fiance, too??? With the SO included, that’s 14 extra people and I’m only having around 50 guests. I think they all expect to be invited.