Post # 1
Hi, I am pretty young and I work with a lot of people who are old enough to be my parents. With that said, some of them do not respect me because of my age. I was placed as a leader for a project and this one person is acting as if they do not understand. I have tried to help them, and even evaluated the way I was explaining it. Yet, the person continues to go back and forth. One day they get what I am saying, the next day they don’t. How do I handle this without cursing that person out?
Edit: I am not the only person in my group that believes that this person has a problem with my age.
Post # 3
HA! I had the same problem too. I’m older than what a lot of people think and I also work with older individuals. The only thing that kind of helps me out is that I have seniority as well. I basically just ignore their glares/disinterest in what I’m saying and tell them what it is I need to get across. It’s up to them if they want to listen. If not, it’s their a$$ on the line when it comes to review time. Just hang in there. A lot of times, they wont have respect for you at the beginning (esp women). But in time, as long as you have confidence and give off that presence that you are in authority, they WILL eventually come around. It’s hard, but seriously, don’t lose confidence in yourself. People that are threatened by your position are looking for that weak point in you. Don’t let them think they’re right. Good luck.
Post # 4
I have that problem, too. I work with the elderly, so it’s even worse – they think they know better than EVERYONE. I just stand my ground. I don’t know what to say beyond that… I make good points, and think before I speak, but really I’d do that regardless!
Post # 5
This time, it is a school project (I go to GS at night), and I have spoken to the professor already. He said that he doesn’t understand what her problem is. I will go back to him again tomorrow to see if he can talk to her or hopefully remove her from my group. She is really beginning to hold everyone up.
Thanks ladies! I think that people don’t realize that age discrimination can go both ways. It sucks, but at least I learning some important leadership skills.