(Closed) How to handle money gifts from a shower

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
6747 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@veggie_rachel:  I think the rule is meant for people who end up not going through with their wedding because you’re supposed to return the gifts. What I would do is deposit the checks/cash and keep a log of who gave how much and then use it to pay off vendors on the day-of. If for some reason you two break up between August and October, then you have a log and the cash saved up to refund it!

Post # 4
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would also deposit checks- I hate when I write a check to someone and they wait foorrevvvvver to cash it – it’s an unpleasant surprise in my bank account!  I agree with PP and keep track of it, and save it for something future-related (like a down payment etc.).  My plan for this is to save the $$ for a house and mention so in our thank you cards.

Post # 5
2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

cash it now – people have budgeted for it now – and imagine if you cash it later at an inopportune time for them? awkward. 


Post # 6
7931 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just cash them.


Post # 7
1228 posts
Bumble bee

Wedding gifts are not to be used until after the wedding. Shower gifts are gifts for the bride, and can be used immediately.  You should cash any cheques promptly as a courtesy to your guests (as PP mentioned, waiting can increase the chance that the cheque won’t clear or inconvenience the giver)

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