Post # 1
As some of you may or may not remember, a couple of months ago we listed our house for sale as there was a short sale property we were pursuing. Long story short, we wasted nearly 4 months on that property. Our wedding is now only 3 months away so we decided to just wait until after the wedding before making a change.
Until a couple of days ago, our neighbor asked if we were still looking to sell. It turns out her parents are looking to downsize and would love to live next door to their grandkids. So I’ve been talking with their parents and they are seriously interested. It’s the perfect storm for us, because assuming they make a reasonable offer, we can do this without realtors saving ourselves nearly ten grand. They are also paying cash so we can avoid any last minute mortgage rejection nightmares.
The question is, assuming this all goes through, that would mean we are moving only a month or two before the wedding (assuming 30-45 days to closings). While I feel like we’d be stupid not to take this deal, I can’t help but feel stressed about everything happening all at once.
Have any of you bees moved very close to the wedding? How did you handle the details? For example, letting guests know you’ve moved so they don’t send cards/gifts/rsvp’s to the wrong place.
Post # 3
I know it must seem hectic but I’m glad to hear everything is working out for you. DH and I purchased a home 4 months before the wedding that needed full renovations and moved the month of our wedding. What I would recommend is using some of the money you saved on realtor fees and hire a moving company. This will help the process to move along much faster and eliviate some of the stress. Also do you have family close by that you could use their address as the rsvp. We put my parents address on our registry and as our rsvp address and just picked up mail as it came in.
Post # 4
we will be moving probably a month or month in half before the wedding… once we get the deed we will be changing the registry address.. as far as rsvps and stuff my current house is my parents place so i wont worry about that. we will forward our address and i plan on making a cute little “we have moved” card to send to everyone on the guestlist list.
Post # 5
We closed and moved into our new house 3 weeks ago and our wedding is on May 19th! It has def been stressful, but not as bad as you would think. Our lease expired two days after the planned closing date, so we really had to be on top of the loan officer, realtor, and closing agency. Other than this the experience has actually been pretty fun! We even packed, moved, and unpacked everything without the assistance of professional movers. So, it can definitely be done! I would say to try to get as many small wedding-related things done right before the move. I haven’t concentrated at all on the wedding for the last few weeks because we have been so busy unpacking, painting, and buying things for the new home! We’re pretty close to being done repainting every single room and setting-up the house. The house has been a good distraction since I haven’t had any time to worry and overthink the wedding and I haven’t had any wedding jitters yet. Next week I plan to refocus soley on the the wedding. One major stressor with moving so close to the wedding has been forwarding the mail. We had our RSVP deadline on April 16th, but the mail has been VERY delayed. We have finally resorted to just emailing, calling, and sending messages to guests we haven’t heard from and blaming it on the new address mail delay.
You will be fine. Just pace yourself and set aside time to focus just on the wedding and time just towards the house. Think of how nice it will be to come home to your new home after the wedding and honeymoon! Good luck!
Post # 6
We moved across the country one month after the wedding. We ended up using my mother’s address as the registry address and for RSVPs, and most people knew we were moving. I know it’s crazy stressful to plan both at once, but if it’s right for you, you’ll make it work out ok. And this sounds like a fantastic deal!
Post # 7
Could you agree on a closing date after the wedding?
Post # 8
try to be safe as possible…i got in a car accident yesterday…moving day was suppose to be this week. now i am out of comission for atleast2 weeks
Post # 9
That $10K you saved on realtors?
Post # 10
I think it would be fine. It’s over a month beforehand! But, like a PP suggested, you could always ask for a closing date after the wedding!
Post # 11
*waves hand* Me Me Me Me!!! We are moving exactly a month before the wedding. House closing date: May 8th, wedding date: June 8th. Because I haven’t lived through it yet, I can’t say just how badl it’ll be. I sure am stressing out, but we kind of knew this would be the case (just based on when we’re starting new jobs, when our current lease is up, etc.). I think that the key is to be as organized as possible, and to be prepared to live out of boxes for a few weeks. We will move all our stuff in and get the essentials unpacked (cutlery/plates, clothes, wedding supplies…) but then we have scheduled 2-3 weeks after the wedding to fully nest. Try to take it one day at a time, and prioritize what needs to get done now, and what can wait until after the wedding. Good luck and congrats!!
Post # 12
Oh I am so wondering this same thing.
We made an offer on a house on wednesday, the seller is working up a counter offer.
Closing may end up being…2 weeks before the wedding, and the house needs some work before we can move in…
Nothing is even official and I’m freaking out already lol
Post # 13
Since you know the new ow ers, maybe you can talk to them about the mail/gifts and letting them know if anything arrives to hold onto it for you? Make sure vendors and everyone calls your cell phone. Perhaps have gifts sent to a parents house?
I would also make sure anything wedding related is packed securely so you know where it is. I moved two years ago and there are still things I can’t find. If that happened to your rings or anything it would be so sad!
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for the feedback! They came and viewed our house one week ago exactly and they seemed to really like it. Though the husband and wife seemed to be on different pages. The wife seemed to feel okay pushing the closing date to after the wedding, and the husband wanted everything to happen yesterday lol. They were going to talk it over and then get back to us. Now no word for nearly a week. I’m getting nervous that maybe they changed their minds and I’ve been going through all this for nothing, or that they’re just trying to wait it out to make us sweat. With every passing day we are getting closer to the wedding and all the other events we have this summer.
Do you bees think I should call them and see whats up? I hate this waiting and wished they could just at least let me know their thoughts so I can do the appropriate leg work on my end. I did see their car at the neighbors house a couple of nights which is unusual. Maybe one of the kids is sick or something. Cross your fingers for us. We found a nice place right up the road in our budget that we could fix up the way we want and is perfect for when we want a family, though I’m nervous if these guys don’t get back to us soon it will go!
Post # 15
Anyone? do you think we should call and follow up? The waiting is killing me! And we found a place we want to offer on, but can’t until we know where these guys stand.