(Closed) How to handle my CRAZY family (long-ish)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Stick to your guns. Enabling her behavior is not the answer.  Look at her son if you need an example.

Post # 4
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Stick to your guns.  I don’t think that you are overreacting.  You can tell your aunt and any other people who question that this is your decision and it has already been made.  This doesn’t even need to turn into any reflection on how you feel about the kids and teens not invited.  You can even simply state that it is imperative for the budget that you keep the number of attendees to a minimum. 


Post # 5
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on

Um, can you afford to expand your guest list?  I tend to think that sticking to your guns over family-related drama never turns out well.  Sorry.  You end up expending more energy due to the principle than it would have taken to think, "Fk it, they’re batshit crazy, I have better things to care about."  I’ve also found that including people tends to create less drama than trying to keep them out.

So if you can expand your guest list, do it.  If people don’t have as much fun bc their kids are around, so be it… they could have gotten a babysitter.  

If you can’t, then you can’t.  Consider making an exception for the crazy woman, because, unfortunately, crazy often trumps sane, especially if you want to not have to worry about it later.

So sorry.  I guess everyone’s family has a crazy person.  Better to minimize their impact and make sure you have a great time!!

Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Stick to your guns. You may have to put out a bit of extra effort to make sure that your niece can be a flower girl (ex. picking her up and dropping her off for appointments, etc.), BUT it will be worth it. =)

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