(Closed) How to handle no shows

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just got over it. There wasn’t really anything to do….

Honestly I wasn’t in it for the presents from other guests, but I feel like if you RSVPed that you’ll be there and don’t show, you should send me a check to cover your plate of wasted food. I had $750 in wasted food.

Post # 4
Member
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

It sux…but, there’s really nothing you can do. Sorry!

Post # 5
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a family of 4 that didn’t show (Hubby’s coworker, wife and two children…and the children weren’t even originally invited).  We had 9 other no-shows (out of 190 guests) and to this day not ONE of them has offered up an apology or an excuse.

It does suck, but there isn’t much you can do about it.

Post # 7
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4159 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well we had a few no shows, but I was so happy that day, it didn’t bother me.  Plus we weren’t planning on feeding the band, so them eating made up for the people who didn’t show.

Oh want to hear my best no-show excuse?  “We ordered meat, and it was finally ready this weekend so my husband had to go pick it up.”  Ummm okay.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Not much you can do. I pouted for a little bit and then made myself get over it. 🙂

Post # 9
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

money aside, i think the biggest shame with no shows is that you could have invited someone else if you had the space.

 

i know my wedding is small, and if people dont show, it will be sad because there are plenty of people we just couldnt invite because of space restrictions.

Post # 10
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46404 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You really can’t do anything about these rude people.

Post # 11
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We were frustrated with the handful of no-shows that we had, as well, especially because we did cut some others in order to make room for them. But getting catty about it and bringing it up to them wasn’t going to accomplish anything, so we just let it go and moved on…

Post # 12
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not married yet but I feel like just get over it and remember why you got married in the first place, for your hubby 🙂

my friend got married on christmas day… that’s a whole other story, but to each his own..

anyways she said how so many people didn’t show and it was a seated dinner so I’m sure a lot of money and food went to waste… and she said the people that didn’t go either said it was because it was christmas or just didn’t give any excuses..

i already know there’ll be people who don’t show.. or well as long as the majority is there i’ll be happy 🙂

Post # 13
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3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry. No shows, suck!

Yeah, I was pissed for a good month or maybe a little more.  I had about 12 no shows out of 120 guests.  Like others have said, its just something you have to eventually get over. I tried to think of the positives of my wedding as much as I could.

Post # 14
Member
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Ryansgirl: What an awkward excuse.

I figure that it’s up to the no shows to explain themselves; that’s the polite thing to do, anyway.

Post # 15
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4159 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@pandaboo: I was pretty annoyed at that excuse, couldn’t you pick it up before/after?  It was an 11am-4pm wedding, not like it was all freaking day! lol

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